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Communication is sharing information, ourselves, in verbal, written, visual and nonverbal ways.

Good communication solves problems, helps us expressed ourselves to others, shares our feelings, desire and wants for the world and ourselves.

If people are debating to find an answer and not to win the debate then all will be satisfied with the results.

Debate/Communication that is immature, becomes personal as in insults and is degrading, the intention of such efforts is to win, to beat down an opponent and to look better than the opponent to others.

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Aggressive communication

comes from a mind-set of looking after number one, that life is a battle which has to be won at any cost.

People cultivate this mind-set because it makes them feel less vulnerable, more powerful. It gives them control over others.

Aggressive communication is delivered in a loud and often sarcastic voice, with an air of superiority.

The words come out fast and hard, almost continuously with much more force and little hesitation.

The speech is peppered with blame related phrases like "you're useless.." along with judgment words like "bad" and "should".

There are usually threats, like, "if you don't I will...", put-downs "you cannot be serious..."

... The downside is that the aggressor inevitably creates enemies...

...The aggressive person .. ...creates a sense of paranoia in them.

The paranoia leads them to see a potential enemy in everyone they encounter.

Over time, a negative feedback loop is set up in which the aggressive person becomes a tyrant who eventually brings themself undone.

- David Tuffley.