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You don’t have to take part in every argument that comes your way.

Sit back, watch, learn, listen and watch people argue or debate.

Especially study the characters of the people in the debate, in your family, in your friendship groups, see who they really are when they don’t think that they are being observed.

Wisdom is being quiet until you feel that you have something to say that no one else is saying, and then let loose your words, and then sit back and watch the fireworks.

If they try to drag you back into the argument just back out again, and then get back to observing everyone and listening to what is being said. If you are talking you are not hearing or learning. Talk when you have something worthy and intelligent to say. Don’t talk just because your ego wants you to do so.

By doing this you can gain an idea of who is truthful, who is lying, selfish, greedy, and who is genuine.

If the discussion is heated then all participants are reacting to each other without thinking, so if you are taking part in such a situation then you are just blind-reacting too. You don’t gain, you don’t learn, all you do is mouth-off like the rest of them.

When the argument is heated people get frustrated, logic and common sense becomes disorientated in their minds, and can say hurtful unneeded things to try to bring down their opponent/s. It is far better to be patient, don’t let what they say affect you, and then speak up when you are ready, then set yurself mentally back to relaxation and observing once again.

 


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Nuggets of Wisdom:

 

One of the worst feelings in the world is having to doubt something you thought was unquestionable…- Katie Keener.

Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us, or we find it not – Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Learn from the past, apply what you learned in the present and a better future will be on its way. – Naila Bloshivisky.

Follow your dreams wherever they lead,
don’t be distracted by less worthy needs
Shelter them, nourish them, help them grow.
Let your heart hold them down deep where dreams go.
Follow your dreams pursue them with haste;
Life is too precious too fleeting to waste…
Be faithful, be loyal, then all your life through,
the dreams that you follow will keep coming true…
– Larry S. Chengges.

“Fear is our only enemy, our chain to misery and heartache. Fear keeps us focused on what we don’t want rather than on what we must do to create peace, abundance and joy.” – Susan L. Taylor.

Know love, know happiness. No love, no happiness. – Author unknown.

Trust the one who can see these three things in you ” Sorrow behind your Smile , Love behind your Anger and Reason behind your Silence – Author Unknown.

Become aware of the questions you ask yourself. Instead of thinking “What if they say ‘no’?” or “What if it doesn’t work?” try asking yourself new, positive questions such as “What if they say ‘yes’?” or “What if it does work?” Don’t let fear of getting a “no” hold you back.
– Dewan Hattingh.
October 23, 2011.

We are baffled and confused when our attempts at happiness fail…
We are mute when it comes to naming accurately our own preferences, delights, gifts, talents. The voice of our original self is often muffled, overwhelmed, even strangled, by the voices of other people’s expectations.
The tongue of the original self is the language of the heart.” – Julie Cameron.

History is knowledge, and people need to be aware of the past to deal with the present and add to the future! – Roxanne Meek.

 

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About The Butterfly and the Caterpillar


I read once of a dashing knight who longed to rescue his princess, who was imprisoned by a cruel enemy in the palace tower. He devised a plan and recruited two small friends to send her a message.

First there was Claude Caterpillar, who was a hard-working fellow but crusty and sour. He started inching his way up the wall toward the distant window, but it was hard work. He grumbled that the sun was hot, causing him to sweat.

Then the sun withdrew behind a cloud, it started to rain, and he complained even louder about the raindrops. Finally he heaved himself onto the window ledge, looked at the fair maiden, and said, “Hey, you, come over here. Are you the lady in distress?” She nodded.
Claude gave her the once-over and said, “You’re kidding. You mean I climbed all the way up here for the likes of you? Well, the knight says to get ready, he’s coming for you at 5 P.M. sharp. Think you can remember that, or should I repeat it?” And off he went.

Next, the brave and trustworthy knight sent Barney the Butterfly.
Barney, too, battled in the pouring rain and the wistful winds. He had almost made it to the window when a bird came by and nearly ate him alive. But finally he fluttered in, landing softly on the lady’s finger. “Lovely and favored maiden,” he said, “the white knight loves you dearly, and tonight he is coming to rescue you. He asks only that you be ready at 5 P.M.”

The princess smiled and replied, “Thank you very much, Mr. Butterfly. You are very sweet, and I will be ready tonight when he comes.
Claude Caterpillar already brought me the message, but tell me, why was he so disagreeable? He brought me the same news, but after he left, I felt worse than before he came.”

The butterfly replied, “Oh, you mean Claude? Well, don’t mind Claude. That’s just the way he is. I used to be that way, too, until I was transformed.”

– Author Unknown.


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A Very Brave Little Boy

 

This is a story set back in 1910. This was a time when blood transfusions were not common.
Ten year old Jimmy had a young sister who was six years old.

There was an accident young Jimmy’s sister had fallen off her bicycle and had seriously hurt herself, she had cut a large artery in her leg and she was bleeding a lot. There was much concern and when the doctor arrived she was slipping fast.

The doctor worked fast and he used hemostats to clamp the cut ends of the artery but they knew her heart was failing. The doctor and family were desperate, the doctor turned around and looked at young Jimmy and said “Jimmy will you give your blood to save your sisters life?”

Jimmy swallowed hard and then he nodded his little head.

The doctor then laid Jimmy on the kitchen table and began withdrawing the blood from one of his veins and he then injected the blood directly into Jimmy’s sisters vein.

This continued for the next thirty minutes and the family with the doctor watched the little girl anxiously and prayerfully.

The doctor noted her heat beat by keeping his stethoscope over the young
girls heart.

Finally the doctor noted that the young girls heart beating had showed that she was over the crises, he wiped the perspiration off his head and turned around and he noticed that young Jimmy was still on the table. Jimmy was
tense and trembling.

The doctor asked “Whats the matter, Jimmy?”

Jimmy said through clenched teeth, “W-w-when do I die?”

The doctor then realized that young Jimmy had misunderstood the request for his blood and what it really meant. Little Jimmy had imagined that his little sister had needed all his blood. Jimmy had swallowed hard and with a
little hesitation at the doctors request, had silently agreed die for his little sister.

When the doctor reassured Jimmy that he only needed to remove a small amount of blood, he had tears in his eyes.

This is a very touching story, a story of the ultimate love for somebody and the innocence and love of a young boy.


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Always remember that love is there, it is always there.
But if you choose the lusts of life instead of love, then love will be right in front of you but you won’t see it because your eyes are looking for something of less value.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.

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