You may want to write down your thoughts about this process and what you are thinking about who you are as you are growing up. Would you be different to who you are today? How different? You would have noticed by now that you would obviously be different to the way you are today. Now that we have established that you would be different, do you like the “other you?” This is the natural you, the person you were born to be if you were allowed to grow as yourself. It is a real pity that we can’t take away in an instant the things that have influenced us over the years, but we can’t and many of these influences have taught you something. The secret of life is to learn the lesson, while casting away the negative effects to the past and moving forward positively into the future.

The mistakes, bad events and bad people, they are all lessons for what to avoid in the future and prepare against them happening again.

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It would be very helpful for you if you went mentally back the ‘basic you’, when a good thought comes to you or you read something good, please don’t let the negative opinions formed in the past reject that good thought. No one is listening to your brain in your family, or your friends, so you are free to think your own thoughts as you wish.

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I was in a room of Christian people some years back. They were all talking and one of them (the Pastor) said “There is a lot of bad in the world, and it is getting worse.” I thought to myself that this wasn’t very positive at all and since the Pastor was supposed to (in my opinion) spiritually lift up the souls of those around him I was disappointed by his comment. Some of the other Christians made similar comments and I said “I think the world isn’t so bad. In fact I think the world is getting better.” Everyone looked at me and then I said “If you look for evil, you will find evil.” That seemed to kill all the negative comments and one of the gentlemen there looked through his Bible for some positive text and read it out to everyone.

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The Earth is a very large mass of land and water, which has billions of people living on it, the last I heard it was somewhere over seven billion people. With that amount of people there is bound to be some bad thoughts (bad people), but my belief is that there is a lot more good or else the entire world would be racked with war and destruction and it isn’t. Sure some countries are at war but the majority are not. Always remember “it is the bad news that gets published the most”. Bad news sells and newspapers thrive on getting the bad news to you as fast as they can. Sometimes good news gets published, unusual news gets attention, but bad news gets the most coverage. And why is this? Because people seem addicted to reading about other peoples bad news.

I see life it as simple logic:

Bad + Bad = Bad.

Good + Bad = A world of good and bad.

Good + Good = A much better world.

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Let us use our imaginations to make the world into a perfect place, no wars, no human destruction, no arguments, no hassles, just love and peace. It sounds like a nice place to live in, but not many people would live there, most would get off and go to another planet – Why, you ask? Because humans don’t seem to have it in their nature to be totally good at all times. Even children can be naughty, does that make them bad? Should we ban them from our world because they were naughty? Or does that mean that they are bad for only some of the time? Should they then be banned into
prison
cells until they are old enough to know better? You can see that it can’t be done. Life on Earth has to be the way it is because we people live on it. Evil will always exist, but we can contain it with good societies based on good moral standards, good work ethics and love.

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It can be hard to deal with the world and not go insane as you become more intelligent, spiritual, and come common sense and logic about human life. You can see how dirty sex is, but you can’t have babies without sex, thus the idea and wholesome sex is clean, decent, loving sex, and here you see from the negatives we have found a loving way to make babies.

The world should be seen the same in the way that the world can be a very gross, evil and nasty place, but if we remove the filth, evil and bad from our minds, we can live in the world as people in a Garden of Eden, a beautiful loving place of health, mental health, compassion and care for one another, it is us in our minds, acceptance of some things, and a cleaning up of our own back yard in our own lives and minds that makes the big difference.

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People need challenges, we need the unexpected (which is sometimes dressed in unhappiness and sorrow), many people need a cause to fight for, a reason to live. We need something to feed our souls, something to do that is out of the ordinary. What a bore life would be if we had the perfect life.

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One of the biggest problems we face in our life is that many of us are not prepared for life on Earth the way that we should be. Many parents and schools fail miserably in this area and many children struggle to find a way to deal with life’s issues. If you have trouble dealing with life’s issues, it is not your fault. Lets not try to blame anyone though, if the damage is already done then lets work at finding a way to fix it. Complaining to your parents or about the school systems will probably just upset people and solve nothing, in fact many of the people that you complain to will just become more convinced that they have done nothing wrong and will be more determined to force onward the same way that they have always done. A part of human nature is to defend what you believe in, and we all have different beliefs.

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Is your life happy? If not, then why? We are meant to be unhappy some of the time, it is human nature. All the people on Earth cannot be happy at the same time because we have different dreams, thoughts, ideas and ideals. So we need to deal with not being happy in a moderate way, it is not the end of the world if life makes you unhappy some of the time. We can also make ourselves happier if we want to, this may sound crazy to some people but it is your choice to be happy or not.

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Start actively looking for the good around you. See the good in nature, look for the good in people and what they do. You may want to consider being actively good which is probably the best way to learn about how good the world is.

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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
2004.