Helping People Grow – by James Martin Sandbrook

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Nuggets of Wisdom:

In ancient times, a king had his men place a boulder on a roadway. He then hid in the bushes, and watched to see if anyone would move the boulder out of the way. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers passed by and simply walked around it.

Many people blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none of them did anything about getting the stone removed.

One day, a peasant came along carrying vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to push the stone out of the way. After much pushing and straining, he finally managed.

After the peasant went back to pick up his vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and note from the King explain that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the road.

Moral of the story:

Every obstacle that we come across gives us an opportunity to improve our circumstances, and while the lazy complain, others are creating opportunities through their kind hearts, generosity, and willingness to get things done.

20 tips from our ancestors…

1. Be true to yourself first of all. You can’t nurture and help others if you can’t help yourself and help yourself first.

2. Be tolerant of those who have lost their way. Ignorance, presumption, anger, jealousy and greed, come from a lost soul. Try to understand them and why they are as they are, but distance yourself from those who you cannot help, this is best for your spiritual, physical and mental health. Someday, they may find their cure without you.

3. Find yourself, by your own means. Don’t let others make your way for you. It is your path this life, and only yours. Others can walk with you, but no one can make your way (or walk your path) for you.

4. Treat guests in your house with a lot of consideration. Give them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Please don’t take what is not yours, be it from a person, a community, a jungle or a culture. It is not yours.

6. Respect all the things that are on this earth, whether it be people, animals or plants. Each and every one of these has a right to a life, happiness and a chance to be what it was born to be.

7. Honor the thoughts, wishes and words of all people – everyone, from the begger to the leaders has a story and something worth lisitening to, some wisdom that just may turn your life around.
We should never imitate others, or make fun of them, or imitate them in a rude way.
Allow each person to the right to his or her personal expression with respect.

8. Please don’t talk about others in a bad way. The negative energy you put in the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All people make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven. All apologies are possible.

10. Bad thoughts cause disease to mind, body and spirit. Practice thinking with love for others and hope for the future.

11. Nature is not for us. It’s part of us. Nature is a part of your family in the world.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Sowing love in their hearts and helping them grow with courage and wisdom with the lessons of life. When they grow up, give them space to grow, to express themselves, to search, learn, and experience life.

13. Avoid hurting other people’s hearts. The poison of thier suffering caused by you will return to you tenfold.

14. Be True (truthful) all the time. Honesty is proof of one’s will in this universe.

15. Your mental person, your spiritual person, your emotional person, and your natural person: they all have the need to be strong, pure and healthy.

Exercise the body to strengthen the mind. It grows very spiritually to cure emotional diseases.

16. Make conscious decisions about who you will be and how you will answer. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respects the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others, especially sacred objects and religious objects.

18. Live your life so that you meet your needs.

19. Respect the beliefs of others. Do not impose on others your own beliefs.

20. Share your good fortune with the others. Participate in helping.
When you have been blessed with much share it out and bless others and your heart will leap with joy at the happiness your kindness has brought about in other people’s lives.

10 Signs You Are More Prideful Than You Realize.

Though all of us struggle with pride, we often don’t recognize pride in our own lives and leadership. C. S. Lewis called pride the great sin and the sin we see in others much more easily than we see in ourselves. Following are ten signs leaders are more prideful than they realize. I wrote the list directed to the leader, and it is filled with sarcasm. I have seen them all at some point in my 20 years of leading,
which means, according to Lewis, that tragically they have certainly existed in my own heart and life at times.

1. You don’t think you struggle with pride.
You know others struggle with pride, and you wonder why they do, because in your mind they do not have much to be prideful about. You do, but you have fought it off better than most have.

2. You feel you are owed.
You have done so very much for the organization that you have put them in debt to you. They owe you more money, more time, more of a lot of things they are not giving you.

3. You overestimate your contributions.
You secretly, and even not so secretly, pontificate on how much better things are because of your influence and contribution.

4. You underestimate your team’s contributions.
If you overestimate your contribution, you are sure to underestimate the team’s. You believe that you are the multiplier to all their work, creativity, thinking, and focus.

5. You rarely say “thank you.”
Ingratitude and pride are close friends. Why would you thank others, after all? They should be thanking you!

6. You think your successor will have it hard following you.
You wonder aloud to others how the whole organization will need to adjust when you leave because no one can fill your shoes. And if the organization does not adjust, and they put another person in your role, you express how you feel sorry for the pressure he/she will have to endure because of your amazing legacy.

7. You think your predecessor was an idiot.
You love to make snarky remarks about the person before you. It is such good news that you are now here to right all those foolish wrongs.

8. You often compare yourself to others.
It is important to find people whom you outpace in work ethic, intensity, learning, and results. After all, you need constant benchmarks to be sure you are dominating.

9. You care more about success than sanctification.
Your sanctification can come later, it is time for success now.

10. You can’t learn from people different than you.
People who are different than you should learn from you. Of course, everyone should. But they don’t have much to offer you because your context and your approach is just so unique.

– Eric Geiger.
April 10, 2017.

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