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Nuggets of Wisdom:

It is amazing how complete is the delusion that beauty is goodness. – Leo Tolstoy.

I’d rather know how you feel than hope and wonder and delude myself for weeks on end… – Dan Wells.

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw.

Starting Over Again When Adversity Strikes

At times life just gets tough and adversity gets the better of us. One day we have everything we ever wanted, and the very next day it has all been taken away. These are moments when we are suddenly forced to begin anew, whether we’re mentally prepared for it or not.

For instance, an epic mistake, a disastrous failure, a humiliating rejection, an unexpected tragedy or loss of something can immediately transform the dynamics of your life, or more specifically how you live your life.

Whether you have faced a scenario such as this before or are still yet to face one, the chances are that sooner or later you will find yourself in a situation where everything you have worked for suddenly falls apart and you are forced to start over again.

Whatever life you had lived before is no longer your reality. You must now start from scratch right here, right now at this very moment. But of course, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Your life is after all very much like a book, and every change that is forced upon you provides you with an opportunity to begin writing the next chapter of your life.

This new chapter, of course, presents you with uncertainty, but at the same time, this uncertainty brings with it undiscovered opportunities and tremendous possibilities. It’s a chapter of your life that hasn’t as yet been written. But thankfully you’re the author and you now have the power to begin anew and write this chapter any-which-way you choose.

Given this, adversity can in many ways become a humble blessing and a wonderful opportunity for you to turn over a new leaf and create a life for yourself that you never fathomed, imagined or expected.

But of course, in order to take full advantage of this new chapter of your life, you must first acknowledge all the things that just aren’t working for you any longer. This is, after all, an opportunity for you to start fresh. As such, you must let go of all your past mistakes, failures and regrets. Yes, by all means, learn from them, but don’t carry them forward with you to the next chapter of your life. These things are your past and as such, they don’t define you at this very moment.

You must, however, of course, take responsibility. Your life is your life and you have played a critical role in shaping it through your daily choices, decisions, and actions. Therefore, what you have or don’t have in your life right now is a direct result of what you have made of your life. Take responsibility for this because there is no one else to blame but yourself.

Acknowledge that:

This is of my own making…

I accept things as they are…

It’s time to make a fresh start…

It’s only when you start taking full responsibility that you open the door to further possibilities as you begin writing the next chapter of your life.

Now, of course, taking responsibility also requires you to fully accept that bad things happen to the best of people. However, judging these events and circumstances too early hinders you from seeing the true value of these events beyond the present moment. You actually just never know how the dots will connect in the future and where adversity will lead. Your greatest challenges could very well become your most wondrous blessings. And starting over again by writing a new chapter of your life is the catalyst that can lead to this positive transformation.

– Adam Sicinski.

10 Signs You Are More Prideful Than You Realize.

Though all of us struggle with pride, we often don’t recognize pride in our own lives and leadership. C. S. Lewis called pride the great sin and the sin we see in others much more easily than we see in ourselves. Following are ten signs leaders are more prideful than they realize. I wrote the list directed to the leader, and it is filled with sarcasm. I have seen them all at some point in my 20 years of leading,
which means, according to Lewis, that tragically they have certainly existed in my own heart and life at times.

1. You don’t think you struggle with pride.
You know others struggle with pride, and you wonder why they do, because in your mind they do not have much to be prideful about. You do, but you have fought it off better than most have.

2. You feel you are owed.
You have done so very much for the organization that you have put them in debt to you. They owe you more money, more time, more of a lot of things they are not giving you.

3. You overestimate your contributions.
You secretly, and even not so secretly, pontificate on how much better things are because of your influence and contribution.

4. You underestimate your team’s contributions.
If you overestimate your contribution, you are sure to underestimate the team’s. You believe that you are the multiplier to all their work, creativity, thinking, and focus.

5. You rarely say “thank you.”
Ingratitude and pride are close friends. Why would you thank others, after all? They should be thanking you!

6. You think your successor will have it hard following you.
You wonder aloud to others how the whole organization will need to adjust when you leave because no one can fill your shoes. And if the organization does not adjust, and they put another person in your role, you express how you feel sorry for the pressure he/she will have to endure because of your amazing legacy.

7. You think your predecessor was an idiot.
You love to make snarky remarks about the person before you. It is such good news that you are now here to right all those foolish wrongs.

8. You often compare yourself to others.
It is important to find people whom you outpace in work ethic, intensity, learning, and results. After all, you need constant benchmarks to be sure you are dominating.

9. You care more about success than sanctification.
Your sanctification can come later, it is time for success now.

10. You can’t learn from people different than you.
People who are different than you should learn from you. Of course, everyone should. But they don’t have much to offer you because your context and your approach is just so unique.

– Eric Geiger.
April 10, 2017.

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