You seen a person or read about a person who is brought up in the city and then he or she see’s a documentary, or reads a magazine or book that shows a wonderful homestead or vegetarian country scene or ranch life and says out loud with absolute conviction, “Thats the life I want!”
In the city this person had never seen that kind of living/life and was not introduced into the new life he or she wants now, but once presented with that lifestyle in some manner he or she is now completely convinced.

Society presents us with the Materialistic version of romance, sex and apathetic love.
Everything around us is commercial, especially what the parents used to do at home like cooking, health care, schooling, medicines and such, now they are all allotted out in society and other people do them for us at a price.
With all what used to be Empathy and Love, we are seldom actually involved with genuine Empathy and genuine Love, so we assume that what we are presented with is real life and we best get to it the same as everyone else is doing.

The sad part is that materialism has taken away the ways in which we showed love to one another and replaced it with ‘what we buy with money’ and the belief that we are loved by what others give us. Much like the female on a date where the male gives her flowers, chocolates, an expensive meal, to woo her, and she assumes that this special treatment will be from him for as long as she knows him so she wants to keep it and him.

The horror story is when the person who thinks that he or she is happily married in the perfect Materialistic Marriage, only to find that he or she meets someone who is actually the vision that they had as a child of who they wanted to marry. As the song says, “Its sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along”.

Anyone can seduce someone sexually. All that is needed is the right buttons to press and the other person is theirs for the night, or if she gets pregnant or they want a trial, they mate for longer, maybe until marriage, and they try to fit in to each one’s Materialistic Life. It can become comfortable and last a lifetime.

Say the little girl loves animals, loves courage, loves peace, loves intelligence, and decides that her husband will be all these things. But, the teenager Materialistic years come along, all the females are after rough, muscled, gang types, or business types, or whatever the latest rages are such as Punk Rockers or whatever, and she is seduced into the crowd, seduced by a male who doesn’t give a damn about her (but pretends to like her), and her dream is gone as her mind is swished away from her childhood dreams.
We tend to see this Materialistic Life as Reality and the Childhood Dreams, wants and desires, as Fantasies which can never come true, thus we lost our true wants, desires and needs, for this Fake Pretentious Fantasy Materialistic World of Living.

We think, because everyone has conformed to this all around us, that the Material Life has been here forever (and it hasn’t), and that there is nothing other than this, so accept it, be it, and settle in. This is how we are groomed to live, think, and be, by a society based on money, commercialism, and so on.

Then one day, like the person who see’s a lifestyle he or she has decided is the right way to live, we see the person who we wanted as a child as our life partner. We finally, probably when it is too late, discover that the childhood person who we wanted does exist, is real, and what and who we could have had, and with this person comes a lifestyle that is not fake, not pretentious, not selfish, not greedy, but the real thing that we always really wanted.

Materialistic Society basically screws us when we are young adults and takes away not only virginity, but all our hopes, dreams, courage, individual thinking, and makes us long term conformers and protectors of the fake existence that only a few wealthy people are actually profiting from.

James M Sandbrook.