Fathers, Mother And Sons And Daughters

How can a Mother, Father who has sons and daughters get to know them? The answer is very simple and men and women have been doing this ever since men came into being. For as long as we have been around men and women have dealt well with their children. Today we have a new “modern” beliefs which in many ways guide the male and female away from their children.

There has been much written about the stress that a child faces when he or she heads off to school at the age of five. Children going to school at that young age is one of the first steps to separate the child from the parents. But there are many others.

Males can, if they ignore so called male-orientated macho rules, become very close to their children, and women who ignore the so-called feminist ways can become very close to their children. How a man talks to his children is very important in generating a healthy loving relationship between the father, mother and the children. We need to avoid talking down to our children, but not talk the up to much. Talking up is telling the child that he is great and special often. A child tends to get a false belief about himself and then he has trouble when he enters the world at large where other people don’t accept, know or believe the same views as the child’s parents.

The modern adult has many options, a lot of peer pressure and many other views to guide him or her. When it comes to looking after a child or children the adult becomes confused and is not sure which is the best avenue to take in order to help the child have a good wholesome healthy life.

In order for a parent and a child to have a good decent relationship the child must spend a decent amount of time with the parent. The child also needs to feel that he or she is in good hand and that there are no ill feelings between the parent and child. The parent may attempt something sneaky, but the child will eventually pick up on that sneaky dealing.

It is far better for the parent to be honest with the child and do what is honestly needed to help the child throughout the child’s young years before he or she leaves home in the future.

Parents should always realise that they are grooming their child to leave home and create an important person who will have an successful and important part in the ways of the world and have his or her own family. Their is no need for a parent to be greatly upset when the child leaves the home (nest). This should be an occasion of great happiness because the like, like you once did, is going to put into practice all that he or she has learnt from you, school and the world into practice and be tested in the world away from home. When the child leaves the home the parents will be still there, but in the distance, to help and be a listening ear when the child (young adult ) needs it.

All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
‎Saturday, ‎25 ‎August ‎2007, ‏‎1:58:02 PM.