Instead of telling the child off in a manner that will help the child feel insulted or angry, talk about the situation with the child and come up with some hints and clues to solve the situation that will help the child save face.
The child will deeply appreciate that you have not shamed, embarrassed, he or she, and will appreciate your parenting style based on Empathy and love.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook. Sunday, 18 November 2007, 7:37:08 PM.