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How Child-Abuse Affected Clair's Mentality.
The human child growing in a normal healthy family gets education from parents and the world at large.
“Life-Education” is the process of learning, or the acquisition of knowledge, skills, values, morals, beliefs, and habits through general living (being alive), and is a natural process for all children, and continues until we die.
When there is any form of abuse in a child’s Life-Education then the child’s mental state changes from the normal-Life-Education to a Pot-Holed Education mixed with the abuse and normality.
Please note: That when a child is abused in any way the child’s mind will enter Survival Mode and then try (in an effort to stay mentally sane and feel normal) to Normalize the toxic situation so that to the abused child at least the abuse will seem natural and normal, or just something that the family or child has to live with.
Abusers will try to Normalise the situation in their own minds and in the minds of thsoe who they are abusing or have abused in the past.
If you were living in the outbacks, (in the bush, away from civilization) in a cottage, and there was a terrible wild dog attack and a family member was attacked the parents being mature and able to cope, would comfort, help, and help the children understand that such things happen and that they should be more prepared for it in the future and so on.
From the event and having mature parenting, the child is more prepared for the future, more mature due to the event, and will be able to avoid the event in the future as well as deal with like-events in the future much more confidently.
In a Mature home children learn to cope with unexpected events, disasters, and the struggles of life.
The children’s mental state grows in courage and strength from their parents strong capable understanding and mature reactions to events of which is observed and passed down to the children.
From such events, with mature stable parents, even though what happened was terrifying the children grow stronger from the attack.
These parents are building strength, strong character, courage and confidence in their children’s souls.
The average child is naturally curious, naturally wants to understand why things happen, what they can do with his or her own mind, body and life, and is in general very excited about new things.
To the child life is amazing, full of wonder, and amusing in a joyful way.
This is a natural way in which the child learns from decent, moral thinking parents. This is the child’s natural reaction to parents teaching, guiding and helping the child.
When the child is given a task and the child succeeds, the child is very happy to get the parents approval, to see the smiles, and to know that he or she has given the parents pleasure.
The child is also desperately wanting to believe that he or she has the greatest parents in the world and “will step out of the normal” to help, satisfy and impress their own parents. It gives the child a deep feeling of joy knowing that their mother and father are pleased with the child (even when doing strange things that the parents want the child to do or when abused in some way).
In the case where the parents have mental issues and the parent/s sexually, physically and emotionally abuse their child/children, the affect on the mental state of the child for life is affected along with the mental structure of the child’s mental foundation.
A human beings Mental Foundation is the same as the foundation of a building or house. If the foundation to a house is strong the house stays strong and stable and stays in place. But if the house’s foundation is weak, has rot, was not formed/made in a stable way, the house will eventually collapse or at least it will have stability issues, and struggles to stay upright, and not function as it was intended to be.
In the case of the child we will call Clair, she has two professional working parents. Both parents are Atheists, and lacking certain moral beliefs. From birth until the age of 9 years old Clair gets the normal school education, and some basic education about life, about being a female and so on. Also a strong Modern Liberal teaching as both parents are Modern Liberal supporters.
Being told that pleasuring herself was normal, the girl is curious. Mother goes in one morning to open the curtains to get her to awake for school and finds the girl struggling to do what mother suggested and mother decides to help out starting Clair’s long fascination at an early age for sex, later to become an obsession for Clair.
Image 2 shows us that up to the age of nine Clair’s growth was the normal for these times, but after the age of nine when Clair was supposed to be learning about logic, common sense, structured thinking, decency, moral values and so on, she instead became her mother play-toy and was heavily rewarded for it.
This encouraged Clair to lose interest in schooling and normal children’s activities (that cause growth and logical mental thinking, and also Life Coping Skills) as she and her mother had a lesbian relationship that went on for many years laying waste to Clair’s Life Learning Education and a lack of normal Basic Life Learning.
This break in Clair’s foundation of learning caused Clair to not gain the regular learning that other children were getting and as the years progressed her mental ability to cope was never constructed.
Her mother did many things for Clair during her teenage years leaving Clair heavily dependent on her mother mentally and unable to cope in life. Her mother enjoyed her daughter being dependent on her as this helped the mother maintain control over her daughter.
A House Built on Sand quickly falls apart when the storms come because the foundation is weak, same as the teenager who has a weak Foundation of Growth below them.
Society today is built in such a way that we can get through life reasonably well as we get carried along with the crowd, but when something big happens the likes of Clair cannot cope and they have a mental breakdown in response to situations that they were never prepared mentally to deal with.
Suppose that at the age of 17 Clair fell in love with a heterosexual man. He could be older than Clair but she didn’t mind at all because he was the same age as her mother and she had been in a sexual relationship with her mother for years, as well as with some of her mothers friends of the mothers age.
The desire in Clair’s head for love came from her childhood dreaming of being happily married to a male, not a female, and having a happy family. But her sexual preferences formed by her parents and somewhat from an unstable society caused Clair to become very mentally confused about her natural sexual feelings.
When Clair’s mother found out that her daughter had fallen in love with a good decent man, Clair was told to stay away from him for obvious reasons. You see, Clair’s mother new a good man would have her put in prison for her abuse of her own children.
Clair’s undoing was reading his Facebook wall and with some personal soul-searching she discovered what she had become under her parents perverted guidance, and in deep self disgust she ended up in a mental asylum for a while. Clair just couldn’t cope with who she had become under her parents guidance.
As a child she always had a dream of marriage to a good decent man, and once she discovered what she had become she new that she would never have that dream. Clair’s goal as a child was to be a good stable loving wife and mother, not a lesbian who was mentally unstable who was abused by her mother, and who possibly would abuse her own children as well.
Clair was forced to be faithful to her abusers or to be faithful to the man who she fell in love with, she chose her parents. But she was sad to lose him.
Clair was then taught (her parents in panic) to hate the man that she had fallen in love with with fake evidence claiming that he was an evil man.
Clair had also found God.
This probably terrified her parents more than anything, because humble godly people go to the Police about illegal activities and especially child abusers.
Because the mother’s control over Clair’s life was so complete and Clair was never able to cope as a person of her own age she went through her 20’s struggling with depression, anxiety, agoraphobia and so on.
Clair was pushed into marriage, had children. But still could not cope mentally from the child abuse. The marriage broke up. She was then given therapists who Clair allows to think for her, control her life (with fears) and so that the parents can keep an eye on Clair.
Even though Clair can work in various jobs, and she is capable in each, she still has a weak mental foundation and because she is told that it is she that is the cause of her issues so she allows herself to be led, and always seeks the help of her abusers, thinking that they are best for her – even though her mentality and failure to cope in life never changes.
Because of her lack of ability to use logic, common sense, and she is unable to work things out in her own mind, and she self blames, she fears leaving the comfort zone her parents created to keep her imprisoned.
This extreme example shows that when a child’s growth is interfered with the child’s mental state, and learning curve is heavily affected, especially when the parents are the one’s causing the abuse.
The long lasting affects, many years have passed, and still Clair cannot use her own thinking abilities to find out what really happened to her. Her mind is impaired, her process of thinking stunted, and the education to teach her how to use the tools in her mind was never completed so she does not know how to figure it all out.
To the world she is a normal human being with mental issues and needs help from other people to cope in life.
Because society is not willing to look out of the box, Clair can spend her entire life unhealed as a mentally unstable person on pharmaceutical drugs of sorts, while her parents get away free and are never punished for their crimes.
The lesson for us all should be to not take things as they are told to us and investigate ourselves because there war many people like Clair in the world who are not capable mentally of figuring out what is wrong in their lives and what really happened to them.
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