I was walking through town feeling down. Earlier on I had made some mistakes and I was very disappointed with myself. My heart was heavy, and I wanted to tell myself off.
I looked up and saw some people walking the street, and my instant reaction was to frown at them, or to growl at them, or to get angry at someone. And then I immediately realised that the whole problem I was having had nothing to do with those other people. Really I just didn’t feel like being happy, I didn’t want to be happy. I was disappointed in myself.
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Other people (except those directly involved) have nothing to do with our problems or issues. When we walk around other people and we frown, grump at them, are sarcastic or angry we are doing them a huge injustice.
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I gave myself a sort sharp telling-off for feeling like this, and I demanded of myself that I do something positive. And then forced my first smile, then I smiled at the next person, and as I went around town people kept saying hello and smiling at me, and I replied to them in kind. I was, in a short while, smiling just as they were.
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Then I came across two religious people that are friends of mine, and we talked and all my sour feelings started drifting away more and more as the positive, bright and cheerful conversation progressed.
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On Facebook many people unfriend people, gripe at others, attack, say mean things, and often it is done because they have had a bad day. When people advise us to control our emotions, that also means not letting our negative feelings and emotions roll-off onto other people who have completely nothing to do with your bad day.
Sometimes I remind myself that I have read stories of people who committed suicide or attempted to commit suicide did it because one last nasty comment, or sarcastic remark tipped them over the edge, and they felt that they could handle life no more. But if it hadn’t have been for that toxic remark that person would have calmed down and not done anything.
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Please realise that your feelings, emotions, vibrations, words and actions do affect other people’s lives and cause positive and negative reactions from other people according to their emotional state when you saw them.
Have you ever walked up to someone and said something and instantly they crumble in a heap of sorrowful pitiful defeated tears? That is that person’s reaction finally breaking that last strand of strength that was holding that person up.
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Please keep in mind the power of your character and the things that you think, do and say, and how that effects other people’s lives.
You and I were born to Bless others, to be graceful, understanding, apologetic and forgiving, please remember that always.
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If we complain about the world, want a better society, then we must be active in changing the world with our own character.
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If we can realise our bad feelings, then release them, and then bounce back happier and willing to try more, then the world will be a much happier place for us all.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
16th of March 2015.