I love to depend on God but for me to depend on the woman of my heart with all my heart and soul is possible and that would come about by her proving that she is respectable and dependable, and I would never ask a wife of mine to do anything I wouldn’t do.
What I am saying is that I would want her to respect me totally and completely and I would want her to depend on me with trust, and knowing that if I can help it I would never let her down.
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If both people are honest to one another, both want the same happiness, and truthfullness then they will have that dream come true.
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If my wife was putting up posters of male hunks and rock stars then I would know that she may say that she loves me but another part of her will one day be unfaithful and that is not for me.
I would prefer to be alone for the rest of my life than be with a woman who was like that. If I were to go to her Facebook page and see images of males, and silly girl talk with her friends, and movies of rock stars and movies stars that are the hunks of the day, then I would know that she isn’t ready for marriage and that she is weak and will just go with the flow. In other words she will follow the guidance of her girlfriends etc. People like this should be avoided if we want a serious relationship.
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If the one we love cannot stand out alone she or he is weak and will follow the crowd which means that one day they will leave us high and dry, all alone.
Who cares what they look like, or if they are crippled in some way, anyone who thinks more of themself than of your relationship can be the prettiest person on earth and the meanest in heart in a sad cold soul. Not for me.
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There are many examples of good solid as rock love stories, but they are getting fewer and fewer. I want true love and will settle for nothing less.
If we all wanted that then people would try harder to not conform to the weaknesses of society. But people would be strong enough to know the true value of a loving family, of having good behaving children, of choosing to bring up the children as responsible human beings. .
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If we party and date gang members or druggies, hunks, pretty hip chicks, or alcohol abusers then that is what we get – we can only expect to be abused by them, it is obvious, but not so obvious is a person is brought up in a society that promotes such living as exciting and fun. People don’t tend to find out the sad truth until stuck in that lifestyle.
When you pick up a plate of pure vanilla ice-cream then that is what you expect you will be eating – so what I am saying is that we get what we choose. We choose cheap, we get cheap.
So we shouldn’t expect a loving strong relationship from a person who is not living a decent life that will bring good rewards.
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If we wait on the Good Lord and choose carefully and with wisdom according to what we know is right we will get someone God approves of.
I will never give my heart and soul to a person to hurt me ever again and she has no regrets, her heart must be truthfull and honest. And she could expect the same off me.
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God is love, and God wants good decent respectful families, good wholesome loving caring families. We get what we ask for. If we want a good decent society, the parents, the family, children, must be the place to start.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
28th of January 2012.