Our natural instincts as children are to enjoy life, to have a go at whatever looks interesting, exciting, and whatever will challenge us.
For instance the challenge of learning to walk. No matter what pain we suffered, no matter what setbacks we had to deal with, we gladly, as a small child, eagerly did what was required to walk. And when we fell, got bruised, felt pain, and even in tears, we got back up and tried again. And we tried and we tried until as true champions we succeeded.
We didn’t care what the professionals said, we just did it. We were packed with enthusiasm and desire to walk. We instinctively knew that walking brought with it discoveries, adventure and much fun.
Nothing was going to stop us from walking.
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Sadly many children get the adventure and fun kicked out of them either emotionally or physically, or both. Many years of people putting mental negative barriers in front of a child can finally convince the child that he or she is not capable of coping in life, is a reject, worthless, hopeless case, incompetent etc.
Once those deeply set emotional self defeating barriers are set solidly in place the young adult struggles with life. And even when he or she does well this person still struggles with courage and confidence. A person who feels defeated tends to not care about their own health, future or happiness, many just give up and accept what happens to them, even avoiding good people and good choices because he or she does not believe that they are worthy.
With every foolish choice or self defeating thing he or she does, they feel even more worthless and defeated.
Toxic Parents, narcissists, domineering bullies etc and an uncaring society can take all the hope from a person’s life and leave the person with a sad lifetime of struggle and defeat.
The barriers put in by other people may be mental, but they are as real as any physical jail built to the person who does not believe in themself.
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One of the duties of all people in the community is to help give others hope and encouragement, to listen to them without judgement, lending a helping hand to the fallen. This is what we must do for our children and grandchildren and for the future and progress of our town.
If we are not there to help our family and friends when they are sinking in misery, they will be forced to turn to drug addiction, alcohol addiction and possibly worse.
A good society is an understanding collection of people who look out for one another, even the fallen, even the criminals. We have no idea what they have had to live through, so the least that we can do is be there in heart and soul to help out.
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And if a person has been a bad person half his or her life, but now wants to change, then that person can have a second chance, and for the second half of their life being a blessing to others and making up for all the wrongs of the past.
A good community of caring people heals people’s souls and creates for them a new beginning. This is a wonderful thing.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 10 February 2016, 10:52:19 AM.