When we talk of “Staying strong” and “living within boundaries that we set” and such talk it isn’t just to make people feel better, it is because it is the right thing to do and living strong like this brings good results and more happiness in our lives.
I was talking to a friend just a little while back and he was telling me that when his first child was born he gave up alcohol. He said that “it just didn’t feel right anymore” and he never really liked smoking, and tried drugs but they were not his thing. That is setting boundaries.
He said that he set those boundaries years ago and hasn’t strayed beyond them because it doesn’t feel right for him and no one can persuade him to do otherwise.
This is what my life is like and that is why I try to suggest to other people to live like this. I used to live the other way, and I hated it. I hated smoking even when I smoked, but I was addicted. I never liked drugs and drank, but I was never an alcoholic or anything like that. My ex-wife left and when she went I simply never picked up an alcoholic drink again – I saw no worth in it.
I didn’t know it then, but I was setting strong boundaries, and I stay within them now. Life is about setting strong boundaries and not following other peoples weaknesses.
One feels good about being strong. One feels strong and worthy. One sets a good example for their friends and family when they stand strong (But if friends and family try to push us out of our boundaries then we should get away from their company – choose your family and friends wisely).
Setting boundaries is setting rules for your own life because you care about your future and you want a better more spiritual loving relationship with yourself and others. Respect comes to those who set strong boundaries and don’t fall to the prey of the weak minded.
The choices we make today do make a difference in the future.
Be strong and live your won life. Get close to God in everything that you do.
You were not born a loser, but be aware that people can make you feel like a loser.
Depart from people like that and go to people who will encourage you to grow, and will help you bloom and come to know yourself and all your wonderful talents etc.
Depart from people like that and go to people who will encourage you to grow, and will help you bloom and come to know yourself and all your wonderful talents etc.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
25th of November, 2013.
25th of November, 2013.