They may start to argue, and then they feel the usual feeling of defeat, “so why bother”, and with a feeling of relief they simply give up.
They have discovered that doing nothing keeps the peace.
Argument takes a lot of energy, seems to be negative, upsets so many people that we would prefer to get on with, so it seems logical to not rock the boat.
But to not rock the boat on issues of personal importance means allowing ourselves to be tramped on, to be taken advantage of, to be fooled, used and abused, and just let that be our life.
To have balance in our life we need to make important stands on issues that affect our heart and soul. And we need unbreakable boundaries bound in solid concrete that can’t be changed or broken. And we must stand by then strongly.
I know what it feels like to let myself be bullied, and then do nothing to “Keep the peace”.
But looking back now I see that it never did me any good. I was always the one who lost out, but I felt at the time that my personal sacrifice was a worthy cause, a worthy thing to do. But I was drastically wrong.
Other people progressed, while my life stood still in time. Today many of those people progressed in life, but I didn’t. I suffered, and I paid for my inaction, and my very foolish belief that I was doing the right and noble thing for others.
To make things worse, is that many that we sacrifice for look back and instead of being grateful for our efforts and self sacrifice for them, they see us as stupid suckers who allowed ourselves to be used and abused. They end up with no respect for us at all.
Life is about self control, and that also means being in control of how other people treat us.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Thursday, 18 June 2015, 9:38:54 PM.