Don’t follow the advice of friends and family – they may know you to some degree, but “they don’t know you spiritually!” – God knows you much better than they do. Follow God’s advice.
If a male or female wants you at their side but won’t commit to the relationship in marriage then you are wasting your time, they simply want you for some fun and then will move on. Be careful because some people can be very tricky and butter can melt on their mouth from their smooth talk.
One of the main reason’s for marriage breakups is that they married someone that they had nothing in common with in the first place. They used lust as a guide, liked the other persons looks, or alcohol got them in bed the first night and they decided to try it out for longer, or they prefer booze and drugs and that and parties is all that they have in common – can you imagine what it will be like when the children appear? Neither partner would have a clue what to do if all they did before was party together and with friends.
You may not be like that but you may have delusions about changing someone for the better – forget it. They will only change if they want to. Don’t follow them on a promise that one day they will change. To people like this a promise means nothing.
Your mind and body are precious they are not play toys for people who cannot control their lusts. If someone wants you to give yourself before marriage then you are going to be used and dumped, they want to play with you for a while then get a new toy later on – don’t you think you are worth more than that?
Don’t “give yourself” to someone on their promise. That is simply them being possibly undecided or simply the person lying to abuse you until they are bored and they move on.
I have met plenty of females in my life that wanted a toy to play with and then move on. I greatly dislike the feeling of being someones thrill for a short time and then her trash. I have met some very deluded young females who seem to think that anyone would want to spend time with them because they want to be used as a play thing – they know no better. But if they use you as a play thing then they sure will move on. The same for males looking for some cheap fun.
Respect yourself.
Each and every one of us is a precious spiritual being in a physical world for a while. We have the choice of being decent or not, good or bad etc. But if we want respect, love and a decent shot at life then we have to treat our own mind and body with the respect that it deserves and that means not toss it here and there for a cheap thrill while risking lethal sexual diseases, sicknesses etc. Its not worth abusing our bodies and minds.
My advice is that God will show the brave and courageous who will wait and God will give you a person who like you will wait and be strong and courageous – someone who is spiritually just like you are deep down inside.
You could say that “you get what you give” so if you give yourself like trash then you will get trash back.
The first step of loving yourself is protecting yourself and not going where you could be abused and it is wise being in safe company. For me staying home is the best place to be if I am in any way suspicious about the company of where I have been invited.
Be strong and of Good courage. God will show you the way.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Saturday, 27 July 2013, 4:40:38 PM.