Sometimes if a guy tells someone of his wife’s violence then he is told to stop being a girl, sook, baby etc.
People laugh. And he is not taken seriously.
It doesn’t help if his only mates are work mates, druggy mates and drinking mates, but no real close friends.
Everyone needs someone that they can get real with and tell things as they are. It helps.
There are plenty of women being violent, but many guys don’t want to report it. Or we are more tolerate of it and we feel that we will deal with the problem without the Police being involved.
I was with a woman who threw things around the house, broke things, was verbally abused by her and she was a very clever narcissist. One night while we broke up she turned up drunk, said that she was going to smash the windows of I didn’t let her in. I let her in foolishly and called her parents on the phone to come get her (she was in her 20’s) and she was punching my head, back and body while I was making the call.
Some of us feel feel that the Police and authorities won’t take us guys seriously anyway.
I know of guys being raped by women (mates wives sometimes) while they are drunk. They just wake up to the woman going away frantically. Next morning he wants up and she acts as if nothing happened, she she knows that guys won’t tell the cops.
This is one of the reasons why we have a high male suicide. We can feel defeated, no one will believe us, and people don’t want to understand.
If a guy goes with 3-4 nasty females in a row then life becomes very depressing and he doubts women, doubts himself, can feel hopeless etc.
And bad women can bring out the worst in a nice guy. If he does anything wrong the authorities are on his back in an instant (that is often in the back of a guys mind), but the woman can emotionally drive him and the children crazy for months or years because being a narcissist is legal and hard to trace.
Narcissists look sweet as candy in public but are emotional bullies at home. They thrive on control and trickery, and the guy and children never know where they stand. If the husband or children mention the woman’s narcissist behavior no one will believe it because publicly she is the best wife and mother around.
The trouble with the narcissist types is that it can take some time before one realises that they are in a narcissist relationship.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Thursday, 12 May 2016, 10:15:57 AM.