The Evil Art of Manipulation.

The art of manipulation is the art of changing a persons perception of people, a situation or even of life itself.

Manipulator will use “anything” to get their own way, even at the expense of their own children’s souls. They will turn some of their children into Narcissist types like them and some will become victims, but both will be used to the advantage of the manipulator/s.
I know of a case where the parents, both Narcissists/manipulators, made one daughter mentally ill with Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy and then blamed the daughters mental illness on someone else, and the two other daughters were trained to be obedient manipulators and they teamed up with the parents to manipulate the
other daughter, the victim of Munchausen syndrome by proxy.

Manipulators work in the shadows to attack people with Character Assassination and the like, but they can also manipulate you right in front of your face and you have no idea what is going on. They portray them self as a friend, someone who cares, a lover, parent/s, friend etc.
Parents have the huge advantage of already knowing you, so they know what you like, what your boundaries are if you have any, what your deep personal beliefs are and what they can use to manipulate your thinking so that you will believe whatever they tell you is true.

Trust and faith in the manipulator are huge pluses for the manipulator to use to keep the victim in their web of trickery and lies. So the more that the manipulator/s know you the more they can abuse, use and test you, and then make you do what they want.
You see, there is always a way to get a person to think in a certain way. So they try one thing, it doesn’t work, they try others until the find something that will sway you to think in their favour and to do what they want you to do, but you will think that it is for your best, and most importantly you will think that the direction you
were swayed and the new thoughts you have are your idea – if you think that they came from you then you will not question of suspect the manipulator/s.

If you suspect that you are being manipulated then rule one is to stop telling “anyone” what you are planning, thinking, believe etc. If they push and push then suspect a manipulator is faking love and friendship.
It is ok to be suspicious of everybody, because this is your life and if things are not working out for you then there is a good chance that the reason is not you, it is who you are “helped by” and who you tell your secrets to. Telling no one eliminates everyone from knowing your secrets.

The manipulators are very successful actors and actresses and they can only let you see their good side, the side that you love, feel sorry for, like and care for, this means that you have unquestionable faith in that person or people/group.
This kind act that the manipulator/s have you seeing is an excellent cover when they are accused of doing you wrong or of doing someone else wrong, the manipulator then plays the victim and this in turn makes you feel so sorry for them and your dislike of those who are trying to enlighten you about what is really doing on is
very strong – and as the manipulator/s predicted, you won’t talk to the manipulator/s enemies.
Be wise, wary and careful.

The manipulator can use people, situations, a sad story, their own children, a disaster, anything at all that will sway people’s thoughts in the favour of the manipulator. I knew of a family that had a terrible car accident and two of the daughters were badly hurt. The Narcissist Manipulator parents used
that to sway a Policeman to accuse an innocent man of stalking their daughter – , and it is especially helpful to the manipulator if the Police were present at the sad story such as a car accident, it makes the manipulation of the law so effortless, a few tears here, a sad story.

Pride is a powerful tool of the manipulator/s. They may tell you that you are beautiful, handsome, pay compliments, or on the other hand use pride to install anger at others by saying, “We are family and we will stick through this together” and all fired up and defending your own family you do what the manipulator/s suggest
or you hate the accusers. Feminists use woman’s-pride to have the younger generations believe that they are powerful and strong if the stand as one, stand together against a known enemy, such as men, the housewife image, and even the woman’s own children – the children are seen as the enemy because they are seen as
an obstacle to the woman making her mark in the world and standing out as an individual and a success.
Pride is used to inspire people to fight and go to war.

When we talk to people we show them our vulnerable side, we unconsciously show them our weaknesses, where they can take advantage of us and how they can use us with us thinking that they are our best friend/s and with us to the end. Our trust and faith in certain people can be our great and
constant downfall, the manipulator/s use what they know of our inner mind and heart workings to their advantage not ours.

Positive Reinforcement is another popular tool off the manipulator/s. They can use anything that makes you happy, pleased with them, yourself, life, etc and this keeps you thinking that the situation is really good for you (even if your general life never gets better).
Money, gifts, positive comments, praise, using your own vanity against you, all these things make you feel better, a new car, new hairdo, new house, designer clothing, making you feel that you deserve all this and are a higher-cut than others.
People tend to obey, follow and love those who tell them what they want to hear.

Blandishment:
A flattering or pleasing statement or action used as a means of gently persuading someone to do something.
Sweet talking the person with a honey tongue. A sweet talker and charmer. Sweet speaking; persuasive; seductive.
Speaking sweetly, softly, or winningly.

The manipulator/s can have us doing things that we don’t want to do by telling us that if we do not do them then we are not living, for instance the Feminist can say, “If you give up your job to look after your baby then you will lose your car, house freedoms, money etc. So they are using negatives to
convince us to do what we don’t want to do. Now none of the things the Feminist lists can come true, or maybe we will downgrade on the car to save money and have to but second-hand clothing, but w will be living how we want to live and our heart and soul will be far freer than cooped up in a building for most of the day while
the sun is shining outside and freedom calls out to us everyday.

Negative reinforcement can be a tool for the manipulator/s as well.
The manipulator can put in the life of the victim tasks and then controlling those tasks so that the manipulator can get the outcome he or she wants, this is a very effective tactic that is not obvious to the person being manipulated.
Remember, in life, it is often we are mentally blind looking forward or see what is happening in our life now, but in looking back we can see far more clearly what is happening now, who did it and what happened in the past.

Sometimes the manipulator/s will help the victim/s along and appear to be all out for them, but carefully the manipulator is putting together the destruction of the victim, but the destruction will not happen until the end, the trip to the end may seem harmless, take years and even seem to be an enjoyment, but the only
real interest to the manipulator is the end results, and that is when the manipulator wins.

If you have something that you want to do deep in your heart and you are telling the manipulator what it is then the manipulator will plants seeds of doubts, fears, worries, things that cause us to doubt our original goals and enough fears to stop us doing it, and in doing this the manipulator is reinforcing in the victims own
mind how scared and hopeless they are, because he or she never achieves the goal they wanted to achieve.

Coaxing
Persistent gentle persuasion.
Adjective
Gently and persistently persuasive. “They speak in a coaxing manner when they want something”

The manipulator has many ways to “play the victim” in mind games, to control us. There is silent treatment, not texting back, making us wait, making us worry about them (their safety etc) so much so that we allow them to get away with things that they shouldn’t get away with in our lives, they may rant, rave, break
things, shame us, make us feel guilty, its all ways to frighten us, to blackmail us, cause us to doubt ourselves and our goals and to put the manipulator first once again and be a doormat for them.

They can use the good cop bad cop set up as well with another person helping the manipulator.
Parents can play this role on their children very successfully, one tends to come across as passive and caring while the other wants to punish the victims harshly, the victim tends to fall for the softness of the good cop manipulator and tells that one their cares, secrets and puts their faith in that one.
The “bad cop” can be a completely imagined lie that the manipulator (who is playing the nice person) uses to make the victim believe that if he or she does something wrong so and so is going to get them, installing fears for their own safety, or the manipulator may claim that the manipulators life is in danger if the victim seeks
freedom and help elsewhere.

The Art of manipulation can be the rewiring of your mind in such a way that your belief system changes and therefore your life-path does.

Our minds can be rewired naturally. For example a woman is a bad person, then she finds God, so she changes her life values, beliefs, get moral etc. Her family, who are into illegal activities panic because they know that the person who finds God feels guilty and wants to right wrongs that he or she did in the past, so this person could go to the Police telling on
the family.
The manipulator parents can from this point on find ways to manipulate the new Christian’s mind in an unnatural way, a devious sneaky way, with brainwashing the victim can not remember the past (especially if the victim has suffered mental illness, had a serious accident etc).

Coercion: the action or practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats.

If a person has a weakness or fear the manipulator can use “belief” as away to make the victim go the manipulators way by creating hope and belief that the manipulator’s suggestions are going to lead to an end of the victims personal struggles, will give he or she courage, a new life of hope, happiness and finally no
mental illness.
Once the victim is convinced that he or she has bee given the correct path to success, freedom from struggles etc then they will finally be happy – but the reality is that freedom and happiness are not what the manipulator/s wants for their victim/s.

Inducement: a thing that persuades or leads someone to do something.

If the manipulator offers us a carrot at the end of the stick to ‘go for’ and they have convinced us that this is worthy, problem solving and the best idea for our life we will got for it far differently than if we just were told to do it. Belief in the goal, the path and doing it makes a huge difference and gives the crafty manipulator a
powerful tool to lead the victim his or her ways. A reward is something to see, imagine and want.
Once convinced of the goal/rewards the victim finds that this is a clear path to take, something to strive for, and encourages with positive reinforcements or even negative reinforcements the victim becomes convinced that this is the right way to go to meet their needs. This becomes the hope of the victim, although they will never
reach the goal they think that they will, and for now that is all that the manipulator wants because it keeps them doing what the manipulator wants done.
Constant encouragements (maybe even rewards), from the manipulator, and even a group of Flying Monkeys or fellow manipulators the victim feels empowered to keep going, encouraged and motivated.

Inveigle: To entice, lure, or ensnare by flattery or artful talk or inducements. To win over by wiles, to entice. To acquire by ingenuity or flattery.
Inveiglement: Something that attracts, especially with the promise of pleasure or reward.

Using flattery, charm, sweet talk, telling them what they want to hear that will boost their pride and ego, sweet smooth conversation that relaxes us and pulls down our walls of protection because we want to hear such wonderful things said about us. When people talk like this to the intended victim the victim does not want them
to stop or to go away, so they settle down to be flattered and in many cases will give body and soul just to hear it all over again. Like Cajolery, coaxing or flattery intended to persuade someone to do something, like Wheedling, using flattery or coaxing in order to persuade someone to do something or give one something..

Clever Narcissists and manipulators can get together as a group and approach a person they want to trick from many angles of persuasion.
The victim can be seduced eventually having run out of arguments against what they didn’t want to do. The sneaky manipulator gather out of earshot of the victim and discuss what each was told and then come up with a plan that gets rid of all the arguments of the victim and finally flustered, and admitting that he or she has no
arguments anymore gives in. The constant pressure from “friends” and family can talk a person into things that they really were against once upon a time.

Narcissists and manipulators have discovered that Charm is a useful tool in controlling people.
So they work on ways to charm people into seeing something good and wonderful in them that is not there.

A good tool for all of us is to reset our thoughts back to how they were as a child, or what they were before we met certain people or events happened and ask ourselves have we changed because we want to do so or is it because we were led to change by someone.
Example:
The mother’s heart cries to stay home with her baby, but careful manipulation, charm, inducement, and crowd thinking (feminists at work) have the mother seeing a bigger goal for herself and is convinced that the lie that the child is better off with a money earning mother rather than a personal mother has the mother going
against her heart and soul and following the pressure from other women.
It is 100% unnatural for a other to leave her young baby in another person’s care each day, yet millions of mothers do this everyday – such is the success of mass brainwashing and manipulating the brains to overlook the pains of the heart and do the cold thing, leaving baby to struggle and fend for itself in strangers care.
Animal mothers will die fighting to protect their young while human mothers put themselves before their child pretending that they are good and honourable in doing so. We should not deceive ourselves.

A strong and powerful form of control of a person is keeping the victim in Debt:
The manipulator/s help encourage the young working mother into debt. They encourage her to get pregnant, to buy a house, take out loans, to get good quality modern expensive furniture, a modern car (“Because she deserves it and is a hard working mother/individual”) and the end result is that she owes so many people, the
bank etc, money, that she feels completely trapped in the work force, so she feels that she must work to keep up the living standards the manipulator/s set for her, standards she thinks she set for herself, a lifestyle she was convinced is strong, courageous and worthy, and the best for her children and herself.
When she has had a baby or two she desperately seeks a way to keep up her image and material gain that she stills owes much money on and the only senereo that wins is the one where she works her tail off, puts baby in childcare and hopes for the best.
The idea is to keep the person being manipulated in debt and in the workforce separated form all that they love and living a miserable fake life to keep up a fake image for people who really don’t give a damn about her.

The only real way out is the one where she has to trust God and get rid of all the expensive stuff and live within her needs. Of course in doing this she disappoints all her feminist “friends” and her manipulators.

Brainwashing:
Using the Stockholm Syndrome a person can be convinced to listen to another change their beliefs is they have a great fear.

Lets use the example of love. A woman falls deeply in love with a man. Her parent are deeply against the idea. We will use a doppelgänger in this example as well.
The doppelgänger is a very close lookalike of the man the woman wants to marry. So they get any information about the intended lover of the daughter and they use it to terrify the daughter. For instance say he loves puppies, so they get the paid doppelgänger to cut the throats of puppies on a video, or act out beating of women,
or in an extreme case take him overseas and beat children and women, maybe rape them, and post the video online and show it to the daughter and this completely terrifies her, she loses all confidence in her own choices and thinking and if the doppelgänger says that he will do violent things to the daughter in great fear she
turns to her parents for protection, help and is easily led.

A person who is very eager to be changed is the perfect person to be brainwashed because this person has lost all confidence in themselves and will eagerly (desperate survival mode) accept any teachings or thoughts from her parents. So to successfully brainwash someone the manipulator/s create a situation where the victim
is terrified by horror, fears and taken over by anxiety and she is their for the manipulating, she is at their mercy and in their complete control.
Isolation, telling her that she can trust them (Stockholm Syndrome) and a long constant retraining her mind has the daughter eating out of their hands and becoming a new person.

Allure: The quality of being powerfully and mysteriously attractive or fascinating. Oxford.

When we become a part of a group we feel comfort, solidarity, strength, protection and we can enjoy the people of like mind.
Joining a church can feel like this. They all surround us with practised friendliness, goodwill, helpfulness, kindness, and we become encouraged by the church teachings and indoctrinated by their system.

If we are lost, feel alone, insecure, and a Feminist takes you under her wing you can feel protected in the group, and especially you feel comfort if abused, used, threatened or violated by a man. As time goes by you become indoctrinated with their beliefs. As long as you don’t argue, follow with submission, and honour the
leaders, follow the rules, you will fit is and in time become as they are.

A manipulator can use group thinking, group pressure, group kindness, to encourage the victim to become a part of the group and eventually think and be in the group for life.
Even those who claim to have no religion or beliefs have them for in not having a belief is having a belief.
Once you become indoctrinated into a group they have you, so please be wary and avoid groups (in my opinion) and walk your own path, its much safer and you keep your own thinking and mind in the process.

Group friendliness and inclusion can have us partaking in events and activities we once didn’t believe in. The joyful feeling of being liked, included, not lonely, not insecure encourages us to be like them. So what if we have to make some changes, they make us feel good, so they must be the kind of good we want to be – or so it
seems. At this time we lower our shields and become vulnerable to their pressure, happiness, gentle prodding and dares. They make us feel warm after a time of loneliness, they seem to be the answer to our dreams, they seem to be a gift from God.

The hustle, con, is to make us feel that the group, indoctrination, rules and this new way of life is in our best interest. When someone is telling you that their way is your way, in your best interest it is time to be careful, because only you know your heartfelt feelings, desire,s likes want s and dreams, only you know you, so
another person cannot possibly know what is in your best interests, but they can know that if you become one of them it may be in their best interest, possibly a payout or an agenda that you have no idea about and since you accept their friendship your mind cannot possibly suspect anything is amiss.

Temptation: The desire to do something, especially something wrong or unwise. Oxford.

Auto-Suggestion: the hypnotic or subconscious adoption of an idea which one has originated oneself. – Oxford.
Autosuggestion is a psychological technique related to the placebo effect, developed by apothecary Émile Coué at the beginning of the 20th century. It is a form of self-induced suggestion in which individuals guide their own thoughts, feelings, or behaviour. The technique is often used in self-hypnosis. – Wikipedia.

With goal-setting we are encouraged to constantly talk ourselves into something, to success, and even chant to ourselves morning and night a list of things to kind of hypnotize ourselves into make this desire a fact. If someone else is suggesting thoughts to us over and over again, especially if we are in isolation with them, then
we can become hypnotized by the repetition of the suggestion.
Get what I mean? You can change your thinking by constantly telling yourself something, if someone else is either telling you the same thing or some other thoughts you will eventually believe what they have been suggesting for so long. Repetition, if things are repeated to us over and over again we tend to believe them. You
don’t need to be hypnotized for someone to do this to you, you just need to trust them, be isolated with them and think that they are honest.

Seductive: The definition of seductive is behaviour that is tempting. – Your Dictionary.
An example of seductive is someone dancing in a sexy way to attract someone to come dance.

Putting up something that a person finds attractive such as a lure. The bait is set, the victim is tempted, and the victim finds that he or she is pulled towards the bait. The trap is set and about to be set off capturing its eager victim.

On the Internet all the definitions of Temptation are about being tempted by something that si bad for us. Strong will ed people cannot be bought, they cannot be tempted even, they just ignore the bait.
Mostly I think that they know the damage that the temptation can do so they avoid it not wanting to be hurt by such a things. Many men stay faithful to their wife even though tempted by a much younger sexually enticing female – to the mature man she is just not worth the effort. But to the weak minded immature man he never
thinks things through and dives in head first destroying his marriage and so much more, just for an hour in bed with an easy woman. If you are mature and strong willed then it is far harder for manipulator/s to trap you, they know that you cannot be brought or tempted.

Fooling ourself is talking to ourselves the whole time while being tempted that it is all good, innocent, she means no harm and you know that you will behave even if you dance with her on the dance floor in an intimate dance – an hour later you are in bed with her enjoying her pleasures and destroying your future.

The speaker of false flattery is a person of dark intentions and should be avoided at all costs.
Single people get sex out of married people when they are feeling down and are easy to seduce with flattery, compliments and anything that boosts their happiness, ego and vanity.
Some people will give just about anything to hear kind words spoken to them, they want to be flattered, to be made to feel good, young, excited and needed, and the manipulator knows this.

 

The manipulator casts a spell, the temptation offered, the carrot dangled before the victim, the victim excited by the tantalizing conversation, the teasing and the unsaid yet hinted sexual intimacy, the temptation to be naughty, to be seduced, to be pleasured by this stranger or friend, once bewitched the victim is lured away to finish off the seduction with action, for tomorrow is for regrets and tears, tonight is for lust without care or fears.

 

All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
‎Wednesday, ‎15 ‎January ‎2020, ‏‎10:00:45 PM.