Responsibility.

The power of responsibility.

It’s been said that the line between childhood and adulthood is crossed when we move from saying ‘It got lost’ to ‘I lost it.’ Indeed, being accountable – and understanding and accepting the role our choices play in the things that happen – are crucial signs of emotional and moral maturity. That’s why responsibility is one of the main pillars of good character.

Many people have been seduced by the Peter Pan philosophy of refusing to grow up and avoiding the burdens implied in being accountable. Yes, responsibility sometimes requires us to do things that are unpleasant or even frightening. It asks us to carry our own weight, prepare and set goals, and exercise the discipline to reach our aspirations.

But the benefits of accepting responsibility far outweigh the short-lived advantages of refusing to do so. No one makes his or her life better by avoiding responsibility. In fact, irresponsibility is a form of self-imposed servitude – to circumstances and to other people.

Responsibility is about our ability to respond to circumstances and to choose the attitudes, actions, and reactions that shape our lives. It is a concept of power that puts us in the driver’s seat. The grand panorama of the potential of our lives can only be appreciated when we begin to be accountable and self-reliant.

Responsible people not only depend on themselves, but show others that they can be depended on. This breeds trust, and trust is a key that opens many doors.

If you want more control over your life and the pleasures, prerogatives, and power of freedom and independence, all you have to do is be responsible.

Written by Michael Josephson.
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The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses, and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
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Having boundaries and knowing when someone is mistreating, or abusing you, is taking care of yourself and remaining healthy. It is not ok for someone to continually mistreat you and you can Stand Up and Not Put Yourself in that situation.
You are the only one who can make those choices for yourself. And we all have choices as we make them daily. As adults we are accountable and responsible for our own lives. – Lorraine F Taylor.
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When I was a teenager my mother was a single mother and so I took it on to do the traditional “male-chores” around the home. Like gardening, mowing the lawns and other such work. There were times I was tired when I was at Tokoroa High School and I didn’t want to do the work, but I tried to put in a good effort. When I got a bit older I worked on a farm out at Mokai and that was hard work, then I went on to 2-shift on the Sawmill Logend, and through all of this there were many tired days and nights, but I always felt that this was my responsibility so I tried. I may have failed once in a while, but otherwise I still tried. To not try to do what I believed was the right thing to do would have made me lose respect of myself.

My parents were not very responsible and they preferred to “play” than be responsible parents, and they were not good examples of parenting. But somehow deep inside me was this stubbornness that told me to try to do the best that I can and to be responsible for things that needed doing. It just felt right.

Today more is taught to the young to strive to have a life of self satisfaction, money and materialism. The teaching of the heart, soul and inner growth is not reaching the young today. When you tell someone to do something and that they are not responsible it is never going to change them. What is needed is that from a young age the males and females are shown the true value of being good, responsible, making a good effort, kindness, having a caring charitable heart and soul etc. Society needs changing so that our young can change and find their true value again and not just grow up to be a cog in the world and chase the dollar and the illusion of happiness from money and materialism.

The hardest part of being responsible is facing up to mistakes, and wrongs that I have committed. It is never a pleasant moment, but the fact that it is not pleasant is a good reason to be far more responsible and careful in the future.
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A person of strong character does not belittle others, call names, and does not play the victim.
They take responsibility for the things that they have done. They don’t gossip, or point the finger and try to blame other people for their wrongs.

To respect yourself and to be comfortable with who you are you need to be responsible for the past, be your own hero and to stand up for the lost, poor and needy. This is making your life count and making the world better for having you in it.

All the best from James M Sandbrook.
‎Wednesday, ‎5 ‎October ‎2016, ‏‎11:21:33 AM.
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