We talk about being victims of this and that, but few people, including the experts realise that those, we, all of us, but especially females, are victims of society so we grow up feeling victimized but having no clear idea who victimized us or how we were victimized, and that may be why so many females find Playing-The-Victim is a natural state-of-defense even when they are not the victim at all.
Years of putting makeup on your face in front of a mirror criticizing your facial looks, years of looking in a mirror criticizing and approving the fashions that you are wearing, years of spending money on fashion to feel accepted and approved by others, years from being a small girl being told how pretty you are, later on how sexy you are, years of feeling insecure because you can’t keep up, or insecure because you feel that your social group is ignoring you are not approving of your mind, thought, objections, so you lower your values and standards to be accepted, admired and wanted, all this, the lot of it and msut more leads to Survival Mode, a desperate situation where the ego is saying, :Be proud of who you are!” and the mind saying, “What a loser!” the person tends to like the go boosts and works hard for them.
When the modern female finds that she is scared, is weak-minded, vain and conceited, and worries a lot about what others, especially females think of her (she wanted hem to think that she is brave and worthy), and she does something bad like sleeps around on her lover, boyfriend, husband, she falls instantly into Playing-The-Victim and sends out signals to everyone that he did her wrong first, when he didn’t.
Guys don’t tend to be in the gossip, playing-the-victim thing in relationships and breakups (society see’s him as weak if he tells of her fits, violence, vanity and so on) so he shuts up, and she walks away with every feeling sorry for her and hating on him.
Females are victims of the tragic upbringing their parents put them through, and as young adults they are messed up in their minds, in survival mode unable to clearly, coherently with common sense, cope. We, the adults of today are screwing up the minds of the females of the future leaving the males desperate for love (that feminism cannot supply), a decent honest humble wife (which feminism does not supply), wanting sex because their bodies demand it, wanting a family because that desire is built within, and because females have that Eve-Effect, they do naughty and then drag their man into it.
By the way, women when they play the victim get out of bad situation that they caused by transferring the blame of what they did wrong to someone else, normally the person who they love, and then pride stops them from apologizing and thus they destroy two lives, their own and the man who loves her.
– James Martin Sandbrook.