Knowing That Someone Loves You, and that you love them:
True love is spiritual. It encompasses a person’s soul, and yet it is internal and fills one from deep within.
We delight in seeing that special person that we have fallen in love with. We want to be close to that person because we feel a strong feeling of togetherness. We want to listen to what they have to say because just hearing that voice seems nice and music to our ears.
To be in that person’s space is special, to feel that spiritual connection with mine. Sure we want to own that person, but not in any commanding dominant way, but instead to protect, enjoy and share with our own soul.
We must be sure that the other person has the same thoughts, desires and interests that we have. For instance, we should find out what their values are, what they believe in, are they unequally yoked with who we are. If that person has strong political, immoral, religious, or other empowering feelings about something that you don’t believe in then that is going to cause some serious issues in the future.
The last thing that we should ever do is give away the pleasures that our body can give to a person who is not in love with ourself. That is a special gift that should be saved, treasured, and delighted in when full commitment is made by the other person. If he or she does not want to make that full commitment then they shouldn’t get the whole package. Please consider it this way, “If you are willing to give all of you, heart, body and soul to that other person and wrap that up in marriage, and that other person isn’t then that is a very clear indication that you are more committed to the relationship than the other person is – and that should be a warning sign to you that one day they will walk away leaving you sad and lonely, feeling used and abused.
Marriage is the commitment bound in Heaven, of love, from one person to another based on respectful mutual love for one another. So to make the love a thing of respect, admiration, and decency, and also a good strong foundation for any children born from that relationship, marriage is the ultimate step to take to show commitment to not only the one we marry, but to the children yet to be born. Children want to know that their parents are married, this is very special and important to them. We should have very strong thoughts on marriage, set boundaries and stand by them, refusing to budge no matter how tempting it may be.
Also if a person can hold out sexually until the married day then he and she are showing that they are morally and spiritually strong, and that they have enough love, respect and decency to wait until the day of public commitment to the one that they love. This also shows their married partner that they waited for them, so they can trust them not to have affairs because they have more spiritual control over their body lusts.
First there should be the publicly announced engagement in the newspaper etc.
It is natural to want sexual relations with the person that we love. It “should be unnatural” to want sexual contact with anyone else. But the key to commitment is to hold on until the wedding night. To have someone wait for you is a very special feeling, and one feels more that they want to give and love the person who went through so much for them.
The mass acceptance of casual sex with anyone is causing the world to focus on the pleasures of the body and to ignore (or to be talked out of) the genuine love for someone with the spiritual heart and soul.
I have only been in love a few times in my life. And when I feel that pull towards the female it is very filling, strong, and I have this desire to fill all my day with her. I would just want a glimpse of her at her workplace, or to ring her up to share my day with her, to go past her house just to get a glimpse of her and to wave “Hello!”. Being in her space made me feel complete, and to be accepted by her made me feel so very wanted and loved. I have to admit that I have always been a bit of a pest because I would ring her all the time, when at work I would ring home everyday just to talk. I love being a romantic, and I do believe that sharing, showing that we care, and that we want to be with the other person is very important.
I have heard feminists say that the male is a pain romancing the female, and the feminists tell young gullible innocent females that the male is trying to dominate her by calling all the time, and such, or that she should have her space and not go out with him, and all the feminists do is destroy something that was going to be something very wonderful. The young females wanting to be accepted and to be like the older more domineering women fall for it, and tear their hearts away from the very thing that was to make their life complete. Feminists are a curse to true love, just like the foolish chauvinists males that run theirs and other’s lives with ego and lust.
Love is spiritual, and it drives a person from the inside, and it pulls the person towards the other. If both feel this same affection and they are kindred spirits, same ideals, same feelings, same beliefs, same likes and dislikes they are soul-partners, guided together by God in a “coincidental chance meeting” that has them waking up at the sight of the other and willing to start a new life together.
God tells us that the male and female must depart the company of family to start the new life together. And that is what they should do, as one they become man and wife, and a new family is born to create new lives.
You will know when you are in love because your entire being, soul, body and spirit, will let you know.
If you have the courage to go and get it, and follow it through then love is yours.
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– James M Sandbrook. 24th of March 2015.