The only control that the narcissist has over the victim (wife, husband, children, and so on) is what the victim allows the narcissist to do with them. Its all about the narcissist being a manipulator and the victim believing in the manipulator.
The narcissist will pretend to be the victims hero to make the victim feel safe, and pretend to be a victim to make the victim feel sympathy and care for the narcissist, while also the narcissist manipulator makes the victim feel very insecure and helpless without the narcissist in their life.

The reality is that the narcissist has no power over the victim except the power that the victim gives the narcissist manipulator. The victim is not stupid, the victim is a victim of mental abuse at the hands of a very mentally weak person who has no values, no decency, and little goodness within. If the marriage partner is abused, then the childrne will be abused as well and set against the victim when they are older. There is no happiness in the life of the victim of a narcissist manipulator.

The narcissist cannot control time, the weather, random events, Godly Divine intervention, and more, but the narcissist is such a seducer the narcissist will try to impress upon the victim that the narcissist has control over everything in the sense that the narcissist is control, power, and a power that the victim dare not face.

If the victim has a hero, someone who loves the victim and wants to help free the victim, the narcissist will pretend that the hero is a coward, hopeless, or has other intentions, to make the good soul look bad while the narcissist still shines in the eyes of the victim, ensuring that the victim will willingly stay with the narcissist.

If the victim took more note the victim would see that the narcissist fears good decent honest people, the one’s who the narcissist cannot fool, the ones see through the fake and lies, the one’s who fight for justice and have no problem kicking the narcissists backside for being a coward and bully.

You see, the narcissist knows that a good person is far more powerful and mentally strong than the narcissist is, and this is why the narcissist will do anything to avoid a face-to-face confrontation.
As a coward the narcissist fears being caught out and the public knowing that all the heroic acts that the narcissist faked were to suck in Flying Monkeys and the general public to think that the narcissist is a hero taking in the mentally struggling victim and helping the victim out, when in reality the narcissist manipulator is ensuring that the victim remains mentally weak so that the narcissist can control the victims life ‘with the help of the Flying Monkeys‘.

Do you think that the Flying Monkeys will be furious?

When people think that they are doing an honourable thing, helping a defenseless person and then finding out that they were tools to be abused and used to capture and keep an innocent person as a victim, by gosh they will be angry all right. There wouldn’t be a safe place in town for the narcissist once the narcissist true actions were discovered.

Walking away from the narcissist is the easiest thing to do but the fear that the narcissist puts into the victims head of walking away keeps the victim in the control of the narcissist without any bonds. Its all mental abuse and mental control, there are no chains, no ropes, just fears, irrational fears put into the victims mind.

The greatest fear that the narcissist has is of the victim finding the chance and taking it and escaping to a place that s safe and that the victim knows the narcissist is afraid to tread.

The narcissist does not want the victim to go to the Police because if the victim does then the narcissist will be known publicly for their behaviour and the hate that they will get (especially from the Flying Monkeys who the narcissist lied to, to keep abusing the victim) will be truly scary indeed. The narcissist also very much enjoys the power that he or she has over their victim and they don’t want to lose a sex slave, mental slave, puppet and doormat to wipe their feet on and abuse.

The most power is with the victim in the narcissist/victim relationship, not the narcissist.

The tables will be turned when the victim walks away to safety.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
23rd of October, 2021.