Maturity

James M Sandbrook

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Maturity is a state of growth in mental wellness that we travel as we grow in age if all our needs are met and our Life Experiences/Lessons help us “mature” in love, soul, body and wisdom.

When a drink or food matures it comes to a state of readiness, of its full potential, and can be enjoyed in this state because we can trust it to taste a certain way, and be the best that it can be for what it is. When it has reached maturity it is ready.

Humans, as with any animal, were designed to reach a stage of maturity.
The lion cub when young is immature and does not yet understand or know his or her role in the animal kingdom.
But once they reach adulthood they are mature and will fit into their roles as mature animals of their own kind, acting out their part with confidence, courage, capable and willing.

They matured from watching their strong, stable, responsible parents, and they became the best that they can be when they reach adulthood, they matured as they grew in body.

In the human world we were designed to do the same.
The child learning from their own parents and adults around them about how to act as a human being, how to be genuinely innocently loved in a comfortable natural way, while learning their gender roles, how to be a male or female, how to love, how to treat others, how to react to life, accept the good and the bad, how to be capable, and with this as does the lion cub grows confidence, courage, and a belief in their life and future.

The reason that cows and bulls, once wild and courageous beasts, are so easy to farm and control is that they are not allowed to grow up wild in strong stable animal families, so they are meek, easy to fool, push around and control. Humans can be like this too, easy to push around, gullible and easy to fool, even in the masses like cows.

Separated at birth the young calf doesn’t see strong and capable parenting, they become calves in survival mode struggling to understand their part in the animal kingdom, unable to grow in courage, confidence and they lack a knowledge of their kind. They grow up weak and submissive and turn to their basic needs such as food and water.

When the society and parents, are dysfunctional, toxic and struggle to cope, then so do the children, and then the children grow into immature struggling unconfident, scared anxious depressed adults.

Many can still work and do their job with efficiency, be well educated, have titles, be leaders in their field, and the more immature a society becomes the more it is accepted as the new norm, thus a society breeding immaturity in the masses.

I discovered when younger that not all adults don’t mature with age.

I was often told to do as the adults did because they were always right.

I discovered that this is not true, and from that I realised that an adult can be very immature,

not reliable, not trustworthy and not good in heart or faithful.

In knowing this I was more prepared for immature adults and I yearned to be a mature adult myself.

Maturity is doing the best that you can do in a situation and life and knowing this.

Forgiving yourself for your mistakes and not letting the past ruin your future.

Maturity is an equal balance of your emotions, feelings, logic and common sense, and because of this your life, future, and your choices will be made with confidence, courage and a certain amount of risks according to the things you want in your life and the future that you want to have.

Maturity is accepting what has happened with other people in your life (good and bad) and with life (Good and bad)

and knowing that you cannot do anything about other people's part in life in general

and in your life, accepting this and not letting this hurt your future.

Accepting ad moving on is very healing, and what we learn from life's experiences and people (Good or bad) helps us with our future as we become more mature, knowledgeable and wisdom..

Maturity is accepting that bad things happen out of your control,

and good things happen out of your control and just accepting those things and dealing with them in a manner that is good for yru own life and for others if possible.

Forgiving because it releases any anger from you (darkness within) towards other people.

Forgiving people when they repent and apologize so that you can release them from what they did and together we can all move on positively and constructively for a better future for all.

Only accept an apology if they repent:

Repentance is the activity of reviewing one's actions and feeling contrition or regret for past wrongs, which is accompanied by commitment to and actual actions that show and prove a change for the better. - Wikipedia.

If the person apologizes and changes their ways and this change is very obvious then you can forgive that person because it is very unlikely that they will do it again because they have come to you in genuine repentance and apologies.

Maturity is knowing that the past is done, not all your fault, and that oftentimes you reacted to what happened and people in the wrong way that made things worse for you and possibly others but that is now over because now you feel repentance for your past and the wrongs you did, and now you want to live your life changed, a new person and will work on your own personal character with love and commitment because you don't want to hurt anyone anymore and you want to be a different person and have a different future.

Even though you may not be happy with the past,

or happy with the people of your past, or happy with your part in it,

or another person's part in it,

it is done, this must be accepted so we can move on.

For whatever reasons you did what you did, and they did what they did, and for whatever reasons they turned out as they did.

You don't have to know everything about what happened, just accept it happened and move on doing what you can to

The future may seem scary, is change, is out of your comfort zone, but it is what you need to progress and be happy. Going back to the past means going back to what is not going to work and not going to make you happy "because it failed you,, you were not happy" and the past will just give you the past all over again.
Change is out of your comfort zone where your new future waits for you.

We must accept that good and bad things happen in life and how we accept and react to them is very important to our own life.

An example is if there is a car crash and someone you know is in it having a tantrum or fit changes nothing, just makes it worse.
Getting in with other helping the victims changes everything in a very positive direction, makes you useful in times of trouble an people will love you and feel grateful for your efforts and help.

Mature people know that in the past when they made foolish mistakes that these were times when they were misguided, immature and they can be forgiven for that, especially they forgive themselves. Now as mature souls they won’t return to what was bad for them and instead stay strong, capable, with unbreakable boundaries.

Mature people put away childish things, childish ways, and immature activities.
Mature people can be trusted, as they are responsible, reliable, helpful, and capable, the opposite of immature people.

Maturity

James M Sandbrook

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