A lot of people these days will have sex with someone, especially the first time, due to wanting to get it over with, scratch an itch, and well, it feels right on the day, and then being upset about it afterwards who she slept with. Sensitive guys also have such regrets.
On the day, with a date, attraction and sexual responses in your body has one thinking more and more like, “This is the day!”
If someone gives in this way the first time and there is really no meaning to the sex, then they are more than likely to do the same thing in a relationship or in marriage.
Its creating a feeling/anchor that when you get turned on by someone that it is alright to have sex with that person, and this carries on into marriage and that is why we need strong control over our sexual urges before we have sex for the first time.
Being strong, waiting for love, companionship that has meaning, and for a equally yoked person gives one the strong impression/anchor that he or she has the strength and common sense to know that when the body is turned on and the mind is sexually turned on that they can turn away knowing that this is not a good situation or a good thing.
When the same turn on happens when married he or she will say, “No!” and walk away, because the firm strong anchor was made years ago.
We create our own strengths and values and we have the power to stop ourselves doing foolish things, and the sooner we do them the more truthful, loving and meaningful our life will become, and the more our spouse will love and trust us. We need to ask ourselves when we are young adults, what do we really want?
– James Martin Sandbrook.