Helping People grow!

People who abuse their bodies and lives do it because either they know no better (taught by their parents to be alcohol users and/or drug abusers) or they want the Alcohol and/or Drugs to help them through life, much the same as being on antidepressant’s.

Because society is based on commercial profits, all forms of abuse these days are highly encouraged. The government gets tax money from the mass sales of alcohol, prostitution etc and many politicians in many countries are trying to legalize drug abuse so that they too can get the huge amount of taxes from the sales of so-called recreational drug sales.

When society gets to the stage where most if not all politicians abuse Alcohol and/or Drugs then the decision to free the use of alcohol and drugs to the country are easily taken, for they have no moral or ethical reasons not to choose Alcohol and/or Drug Abuse because they too participate in these activities.

I know a church going family, who go to church, pray, pay their offering to God and church and then party up large whenever they can.
Both the parents are miserable and not happy with their lives. They struggle mentally, and they work hard. They have a large two-story house, big yard, many children, and praise God, but due to their struggles in life they want “a fix”, like a pill to take to make them happy, so they party.
They get drunk, and the children as they grow older do the same. If the parents are away big rages in the big house that the parents feel that God gave them.

The parents don’t want to be known as mentally unstable or miserable, so they do what is accepted by society (another weakness, seeking approval of others).
Getting drunk from time to time which a commercial society praises and states as “having fun times” is what is considered the Norm so they happily pay for it and indulge.
If the children grow up, follow the ways of their parents, and have depression and anxiety issues, the parents see this as normal life because they two, both of them have issues the same, so they deem this as normal, and a good drink-up is releasing tension and having a good time.

The Alcohol and/or Drug abuse is a fix, like one gets of heroin or some illegal hard drug.
People who think that it is acceptable is either suffering some mental issues, or has been taught by their parents the Alcohol and/or Drug lifestyle, so they too see it as normal, fun, and a way of expressing themselves.

This could be likened to being a Vegetarian or Vegan. They don’t eat meat, at all, yet they survive just fine, suffer less illnesses, have better health and so on. Taking meat out of their diet is a big plus, not a loss.
The same can be said for removing Alcohol and/or Drugs from one’ lifestyle. The benefits far outweigh the losses.

The real issue though is that anyone who you know who abuses alcohol and drugs is suffering from being trained to accept what is bad for them or is suffering some form of depression and getting stoned and drunk is escapism, a way to get away from what real life is all about.
Escapism = the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment, alcohol, drug abuse, affairs or engaging in fantasy, like hours of gaming and so on.

Parents can play the game of being happy, but adult and drunk time is a way of escaping normal-life, getting away from the children because they find their own children to be a trial, a hassle, a struggle, and unprepared for parenthood by their own parents they struggle with their own children and then eagerly look forward to and seek relief from their children and the day-to-day toil of life in drunkenness, drug abuse and whatever. The Escapism is their pill, their antidepressant, their way of avoiding reality for a short while, just something to keep their inability to cope out of their minds for a while.

Just as antidepressant’s are not the answer neither is Escapism.
People struggling to cope seek relief in their Escapism, but the relief of a drug, or any form of abuse does not heal, it just puts aside the problem while the person grows ever depressed and turns eventually to violence, other abuses, addictions, or even suicide because a life of struggling to cope just feels so hard and one just wants to turn-off-the-light and walk away forever and not look back.

Part of the problem is lack of courage. We fear so many things these days and we fear facing our fears. If we live in fear we never like ourselves, we are ashamed of ourselves for our lack of courage, we have little or no real foundation of trust in ourselves or respect for who we are, we fear the important things in life we know that we should do but our lack of faith in ourselves keeps us from taking the all important Life Risks that can change the game for us and bring us faith, courage, hope and love for our selves.

When I walk around on Security Patrol on the weekends and I hear the immature drunken drugged behaviour of the people partying up large it makes me feel so sad for them. These people are the result of a materialistic society that has lost touch with what is really important for the human being, become apathetic, and the people act immature because they never really grew up and they really struggle to cope.

Reports state that half the women in the developed world are on antidepressant’s and that amount is climbing each year. Imagine if the other half are getting stoned and drunk on a regular basis. This means that most of the women in the world from about 18 years older and upwards in age are in fact all suffering depression, emotional imbalance, insecurities, anxiety and so on. I simply say this because a stable person does not need any form of drugs or alcohol and can live a strong stable life without them.

To know the strong stable types, not who see’s no need for escapism and who enjoys a happy, healthy, content simple life, and there you have found someone who lives for love, people, animals and a healthy life.

We are human, an animal of great courageous and spiritual strength, we need nothing but what we are, each other, love and a simple life. In nature we are at home, natural foods, healthy living is our natural state of being.
As the most intelligent animal on the planet as custodians we are here to love, protect, preserve all that is good and natural for the Entire planet.

Maturity is noting what you like that is good for you, healthy, loving, fun, and what meets your needs and then making all that happen.
 Then enjoying what you have in it’s loving peaceful simplicity.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
13th of December, 2021.