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This is a true story.
A friend of mine years ago, was working in a government department where there was much stress and a lot of issues with customers etc. She told me this story about her work.
Over the years the woman in charge, a manager, made friends with a woman, they became best friends, did many things together, and their families had barbecues and dinners at each others houses and so forth.
The manager and her friend went out together, shared weekends together, went to each others family events, and did a lot together. The manager trusted her friend explicitly, they really were very close. In fact there was no one in the world that she trusted more, they were, in the managers mind in a solid relationship that was unbreakable.
They both worked together in this very professional environment. One the Manager the other a worker.
At work the manager trusted her friend, and was harsh on the rest of the staff, suspicious of them, to make sure that they didn’t try to trick her, and to ensure that their was no fraud etc. Everyone, and I mean everyone, new that the manager fully trusted her best friend who both shared so much together.
She knew that she could rely on this friend to report any fraud or illegal activities.
Until… the walls of friendship came crashing down like a ton of bricks.
The Police came and arrested the managers best friend for theft. It was discovered that the managers friend used her friendship to use the managers position to steal from the company well over $100 000, one source said over $250, 000.
Often the manager would go out for lunch, or to meetings, and leave her work card (to access the computers and her personal computer) in the hands of her trusted friend who knew her passwords and everything.
The day it was all exposed the manager was found in her office crying for hours (over 3 days).
The real hurt was the betrayal, and the other hurt was that her friend did all the devious work in the managers name using the managers own personal secure work card. Because of all of this all the guilt pointed to the manager and it looked like she had created fake accounts and money was being paid weekly into bank accounts, which of course the fake friend withdrew from each week.
The manager trusted her friend so much that she let her have her secure passwords, access to stuff that managers are supposed to keep to themselves that no one else is supposed to know.
This fake friend new all her boss’s personal life, her feelings, shared tears and emotional moments, her ups and downs, the works. The manager later on realised that the signs were there, but she didn’t want to see them, and she paid dearly for her refusal to see the truth. She didn’t lose her job but upper management were very very hard on her, and the manager said bitterly that she would never trust another person like that ever again. So sad 🙁
We people have a bad habit of creating an aura around people based on what we want to see and not on what is really happening. We lie to ourselves, we pretend, we ignore the signs and we ignore hints from other people or from God.
Once the fake protective aura is set around our fake friend/s we refuse to see the light and the truth, and we pay dearly for it.
Please don’t feel guilty about looking deeper into your relationships with people, especially people who go out of the way for you so much, they could have ulterior motives. It is your right to protect yourself.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
August 11, 2017 at 7:25 PM.
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