Guilt trips

We may find that we are with a crowd that we feel a part of, maybe even someone they all like, even popular.

But the big question is, is this where we belong?

Look at the people in the big cities, they fit in, yet they are tremendously stressed out in the concrete jungle trying to live the opposite for what they were born, they fit in, but is that where they should be!

Look at the people in eager excitement coming together as one at parties, celebration, and events. Alcohol is abused, drugs abused, sex is abused as they abuse each other. Is this really an environment that is good, healthy and where they fit in.

You or I may be in a group of friend, or work mates, but we can still be completely ourselves without them making us like them. We still retain our original character without them changing us. And still stick to our values, our beliefs and our lifestyle and no matter what they do or say to try to convince us that we should be like them we know who we are and we stay our own character with our strong personal beliefs and lifestyle.

We need to be wary too, that people we know will use special occasions to seduce us into bringing down the walls, the barriers that we use to protect us, the barriers that make us different from them and protect us from being as foolish as them. Nothing, nothing at all, should weaken our strong commitments to ourselves, our values, beliefs, and a good lifestyle. So always be wary of those (family, friends, work mates etc) who talk about “the good times that we will have” if w follow them on a special occasion.

A guilt trip that is often successfully used, is to make you feel guilty because you are stopping them from having fun. For instance if you decide not to partake in a party or event on your birthday or some anniversary etc, “you are letting the crowd down” etc. They will say something like, “But we went to all this trouble, we spent all this money, just for you, and now you won’t go, you are letting us all down and ruining everyone’s night”
This is making you feel so guilty that you will lower down your protective barriers so that you don’t have that horrible uncomfortable feeling of guilt.
But the reality is that there is really no reason whatsoever to feel any guilt at all.

Know this, that when you lower your values and protective barriers, you have just opened up the way for you to be harmed in some way or taken advantage of, or you will be coerced into doing something with the crowd that you will be ashamed of for the rest of your life – life long regrets, possibly depressions etc. It is just not worth it.

Just because people take you under their wing, get on with you, made you feel momentarily happy, and bring you into their beliefs and groups, does not mean that you fit in with them. It simply means that they see someone who they want to make like them, because they have completely conformed and are the true weak ones. They don’t think for themselves.

If you really want what is best for your future then you need to always, on all occasions, do what you feel comfortable with – if it doesn’t feel comfortable or right, then for your own sake and for your futures sake, “Don’t Do It!”

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Friday, ‎5 ‎May ‎2017, ‏‎9:30:53 AM.