When we understand that grief is a part of life (It means that deep with we miss those we care about the most when people die), and that (for death) we will meet those who die again we find that we miss the people we love (of course) but we are calm in our soul because we know that we will be together again, all of us, and it will not be as it is here on earth in our physical existence.
Most of the suffering we have is because we misunderstand life, the meaning of life, and we were taught to live and think the opposite of good, healthy, living.
Years ago I was terrified of my children dying and I would have nightmares. Then when my ex-wife left I had depression and anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and fear of death etc. Today I am the complete opposite and work night shifts on security and have no fear of death or what is on the other side.
In fact the last time I came face to face with criminals in a robbery they kept threatening to do me over and I kept walking to them and saying, “Lets do it then!” and they ran away as fast as they could, yet there was only one of me.
I know, without doubt, that I will be with those I love after I die, and I will also understand my enemies better and we will be friends.
Modern society was made by humans, greedy corrupt humans.
The healthy Garden of Eden we call Earth came from God. Two vastly different ways to live. Look around you at what humans are doing in the name of greed and money, then look at the people just watching the planet being destroyed. It says a lot for the human condition and mental state today after a 100 years or so of materialism and commercialism.
You are a member of the human race, and you owe it to yourself, your wife and children to live up to the name of the honourable father and gentleman.
Your importance in the family is not often spoken of, but it is known in the hearts of all the members of your family who expect the very best of you and look up to you for guidance and a good example.
You also expect the very best of you, and you hurt if you feel that you have let your family or yourself down.
What you need to do is to be the very best that you can be as a man, father and husband. For each man the role of husband and father is different, and we make many mistakes, but if we are a good example, forgive, apologize, and are genuinely there for our family they will understand when we make mistakes and they will stand by us and support us through anything.
Some days you will feel alone, lost, confused and will wonder if you are doing the right thing for your family, and for yourself. You will stumble, you will fall, you will make financial mistakes, and your will make financial gains, work hard – you are human, you fail, you will, you fall, you get up, this we must get used to, this we know will happen, and in knowing this we can be our best friend and get ourself
back on track, smarter and wiser from each fall, and each stumble and from each tear.
Your greatest journey is not being a good lover, good provider, good worker – your greatest journey will be shared to your children from the life you live, the honesty and strength you show, your good attitude, your peaceful laughter, your hugs, your kindliness and being there for those who you love the most.
Your power and the meaning of your good life will live for many decades after you die, and your name will be spoken in honour of the good you did, of the decent achievements you made, of the hearts you healed, people you helped and the compassion you showed to all.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Thursday, 11 April 2019, 9:01:50 PM.
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