You can note in life that as you experience life you can take steps to stop experiences and events from happening but they still do happen.
You may remove one type of people from your life, but in the end you get that same type of people (But different people) back in your life, and the old things start to happen all over again, the same events, feelings, habits, and temptations. You thought that you removed such temptations from your life, but here they are, all over again. Why? The old people are mostly gone, the old habits mostly gone – whats going on?
Take for example the young adult female who finds a new life, probably finds God or Religion, or decides to become a martial Artist and wants a new life away from the old life.
By changing herself only, she changes her own Life Pattern for some years. People accept that she has changed because they have no choice to accept it.
But because she has changed only her own character, those around her are all still the same.
They still have the old patterns.
This is why ex-drug abusers and alcoholics are told to completely remove themselves from drug abusers and alcohol drinkers.
You may change your Life Patterns but those, family, friends, acquaintances still all have the same patterns you were part of in the past. In fact the reason that you had your old Life Patterns was probably because of the very same family members who caused you to have the negative Life Patterns of the past, or people who were like them.
God tells a newly married couple to completely break away from family because both have negative family influences that they grew up with, and the only way that the new marriage/relationship can become new is if they depart all the old relationships of the past, and that includes family, especially parents.
An example is that you have become a Christian. You want a new life, a new character, to be close to God, to be decent, a good parent and spouse.
But your life with people who are not of your faith or are very loose Christians, are affecting your life in negative ways and old feelings and old habits are re-emerging in your mind, and life, and their constant feeding your old habits and encouraging your old habits that you want gone to come out again and be a part of your life again.
The people around you may claim to support, love and want the best for you, but as long as they continue to influence you by not being who you want to be, they are only telling you the words that you want to hear, and that to you seems reasonable, but if they really respected and wanted to help you then they would change as well.
Because they won’t change in support for you and are still partaking in old tempting ways, then you will be as they are sometime in the future because of their non-stop constant daily influence on your Mind, Soul, Life.
Deep down inside all your family and old acquaintances know this and they want the old you back. They want the alcohol you, the swearing you, the casual irresponsible you, also the you who they were once able to easily influence and possibly push around.
So when you were a drinker events, parties, birthday, and also many “coincidences”, deja vu’s happened, and now that you have changed your life they are still there or keep reappearing.
Part of departing from the only influences is the removal of the old temptations to your mind, body and soul, and also the removal of old habits, and the removing totally of the people who cause you to be tempted or who will bring you back to who you used to be in the past.
Being a person who does not smoke cigarettes you can become a smoker all over again just by being constantly around smokers.
An example is when I was a young teenager all my family smoked cigarettes. I gave up smoking for about 2 years, but all my family, even my younger sisters smoked cigarettes, and the house was always full of cigarettes and smoke, especially watching TV and movies etc, so in the end after about 2 years I took up smoking again. I figured that as long as I was still breathing in their second-hand smoke I may as well have the enjoyment of smoking again, and from then on I smoked for decades until smoking was going to hurt my health very badly.
If I had been old enough to leave my family I would have given up smoking for life, but because they were still around me daily, and their friends who smoked were still around me daily, and their new friends smoked, I was in all of their Life Patterns, and even though mine had changed, none of theirs had.
Eventually the old habits, desires, temptations all were simply too much and I was smoking all over again.
It may seem cruel and mean to get away from family and friends who are still doing the bad things that you don’t want to do any more, but if you don’t break away then their Life Patterns will take you back to where you were in the past and all of the things that you wanted to avoid and not be, you will get and will be.
Say for example, all your sisters act like whores, so you decide not to be a whore and be like them.
As long as your sisters have regular contact with you, even via cell phone, email, or texting, they will subconsciously influence you, and as long as you remain in constant with old friends, family who don’t mind whorish behaviours, and so on, you will end up being exactly who you were destined to be in that family, like the rest of them.
People who want the old you back, will tell you that they love, respect and want the best for you all the while deliberately (but appearing not to) tempt you with TV, movies, speech, events and so forth, all to get the old you back.
If you gave up alcohol, for a while there will be no alcohol in the house but they will say to you that if you respect them then you must allow them to drink alcohol, and caught in that trap you humbly agree.
And a year later you are back to getting drunk with them, laughing and being morally loose.
They won, they destroyed the new healthy wonderful person you were trying to be, and they got the so-called fun alcohol drinker with loose-thinking back in to their lives – they think that they did a good thing, and you will also think that way, for a while, until your body pays the price of all the parties and alcohol you partook in.
The only way for you to become new, is to completely depart from people of the past, if you don’t. you will become what you once were, and everyone who is like who you didn’t want to be will rejoice in having the old you back, but it will hurt your mental health, harm your physical health, lose you good worthy friends in the long run, and make you much more miserable than you should have been.
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