Childhood Issues and the harm it does to us.

The male (and female) who is suffering from a damaged childhood or has not had the proper attention from Mother and Father will have his/her Spiritual-Growth stunted due to having his/her normal learning curve disrupted or not completed.
This means that he/she has not reached a maturity level that matches their physical growth as an adult.

At age 26 he may seem to be a good man, but once one gets to know him they find that he is very childish, irresponsible, and does not know how to act his own age.
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Example:
My father, who was seldom ever there for me used to tell me to, “Grow up”, and to “Stop acting childish”, to “be a man” etc.
Yet, he took no responsibility for the fact that I had no one to teach me how to be a strong decent worthy man, husband and father. Dad once said that he didn’t want anything to do with us children until we were old enough to do drugs with him or party etc. We never had a mature loving father.

My father was very immature in his general attitude and behavior. Yet he could weld, was a competent plumber, could fix Harley Davidsons etc.
He abused alcohol, drugs, used bad language around us children, flew into rages/tantrums, at times was violent etc.

All the above was a terrible example of manhood. I desperately wanted to not be like my father. I admired his skills as a plumber, welding, mechanics etc, but not his lack of morals and immature ways.
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When this mentally immature male of 26 (mentioned above) becomes a father he continues his teenage ways. In some ways he matures, but in many he wants to be how he used to be, he does not want to “grow up”, because to grow up and be a responsible mature father to him means putting away childish ways. He likes these activities, to him they are fun, his adult playtime.

He still wants to meet and “hang out with the mates”, and if he abused drugs, alcohol, etc before he became a father he wants to continue doing these things.
If he partied then he will want to keep that up.

In other words, he has not grown up maturely in equal balance with his body.
And because of this his male children will be like him, and they too will struggle with being mature and responsible.

When people grow up together in a neighbourhood where both parents work, the children go to school (school is their main adult influence), or they grow up in a single parent family, the young grow up in the same immature mental frame of mind. Even if one is more mature than the others peer pressure will bring that person down to the level of the crowd thinking.

These young will partake in immature activities like violence, vandalism, drug and alcohol abuse, possibly gang rape, and the like, because mentally they are still like children. These young adults are children in adult bodies.

Drugs, alcohol, sex, etc, are sweets to them, fun to be had, and they don’t care about being responsible because they don’t understand what that means and as children having fun they don’t care.

As a young man I was immature, because my father was not able to teach me how to be mature, respectful, responsible and worthy. Yet as an immature adult he blamed me for not acting as a man.

My father’s father was not there for my father either, so my father was keeping the immature cycle going, I broke it thankfully, but it took years of mistakes, tears, suffering and retraining my own mind. I had to learn how to be mature, respectful, responcible on my own. You could say that all things became new and that I was born again.
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If you want to know why the young misbehave today, it is because society failed them. The young adults are not to blame.

To say that the young are to blame for being immature, is to say that I was to blame as a young adult because my father didn’t teach me how to be a good, worthy, responcible man.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
‎Monday, ‎20 ‎August ‎2018, ‏‎5:34:50 PM.