I just read a case of an old man whose first wife died. A year later he remarried.
He had, had no skin issues all his life, but on his honeymoon he got such a bad case of dermatitis that he was hospitalized. When home his illness came back.
But everytime he left home on his own to stay in another town or city, his dermatitis cleared up and went away.
Then one day his wife had to leave the family home to look after a sick relative. And while she was gone his skin cleared up. By this time it was obvious what the problem was.
The author asked the old man what he had discovered during their honeymoon about his new wife, and he said that his wife was domineering and dominating. And he hated it.
So the doctors got his wife aside to explain to her that it was she that was causing his illness. She struggled with this revelation and then finally did very well controlling herself and being a better person, and all his skin trouble went away.
Except for the odd return of the dermatitis, and then the author and his co-workers would have another discussion with his wife and the illness would go away again.
It is well known in the health professions that people under stress become ill and develop physical problems like severe headaches, skin problems (this is common), dizziness, vomiting, etc.
Anyone in a home who has a domineering character is put in an undeserving and unnatural and unneeded pressure on the other members of the family by this person.
This is because the domineering person “expects to get their own way”, if they don’t get their own way all hell breaks loose.
Domineering people, when threatened become very nasty, and other people pay for their part in the life of the dominant character. The blame is always everyone else’s fault, as the domineering person always believes in their own innocence.
Timid minded souls can suffer greatly under the care of the domineering person, and sickness of all sorts can be the result. The domineering person and even health professionals (many do this) can blame all sorts of reasons for the skin issues etc, but the truth is that the household is under pressure that they don’t deserve (except they get what they deserve for letting the domineering person rule over them).
By the way whenever the narcissist/dominant type sees health professionals they play the innocent game and always act and look like angels in public.
The timid soul fears upsetting the dominant person, and this makes them tense inside, worries tear at their gut, and they are often unwell for various reasons.
As the above example shows, the answer is a total change of character by the domineering person, or the victims leave the home to safer places to live.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 1 May 2015, 8:37:18 PM.