From the point of blame onwards I learned a very valuable lesson.

Some years ago when I was a new Christian I knew a woman who was going through a very tough time.
It seemed that she was a victim of a mean person and she was being fooled and led to do foolish things. I felt so sorry for her.

I tried ever so hard to advise this person. I even foolishly blamed God for this persons situation. I said to God that it was unfair that He allowed this to go on, and I said that how could He be a God of Love when He allowed people to be victims of such evil people.

From the point of blame onwards I learned a very valuable lesson. (Always look out for lessons) I tried to help this person and finally this manipulative person was taken away from her forcefully. I was so happy. I cried with joy. Now all was fair and she truly had a chance at life, now she will be a better person. I set about helping her and guiding her.

But to my horror she eventually became as bad as the person who was treating her bad. She wasn’t really a victim, although she played the victim and got lots of sympathy. She got lots of sympathetic attention. Over a period of months as her confidence grew she started being like her old manipulator. And then about 3 years went by and eventually she was in the exact same situation, she was being manipulated by much the same type of person as before.

God had showed me that it was her choice to be manipulated. He showed me that the situation and the poor victim act could fool a person into believing that the victim was innocent, and needed help. But the reality was that she was a weak-minded person who was too afraid to face life on her own so she intentionally let people push her around and take control of her life.

Today she is still the same. Still controlled. Still weak, still pathetic, and still gets nowhere and achieves nothing on her own. No one can help her because she won’t even try to help herself.

My lesson was not to judge God, to trust God, and to realise that even though a situation may look a certain way it may be totally different. Trust in the Lord with all thy heart.

By God showing me all of this over a period of years I was able to see that God was innocent and that this person always put themself in a position to be dependent on someone else. It is a sad situation but nothing can be done for people who won’t do anything for themselves. Some people cannot be helped because they refuse to be helped.

Often we can make mistakes about God and His intentions. This is why we need faith trust and belief in God being Love.

Proverbs Chapter 3, verses 5-6:
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
17th of May 2014.