A chance is all that millions of people need when they are feeling down or depressed.
People need help, then space for thought, then help with encouragement.
Continuous pressure will just push a ‘person over the edge’ and they will put up a protective wall around themself and then you cannot help them.
It is human nature to do one of two things when highly pressured, one is to protect oneself and the other to fight for protection. Depending on the nature of the pressure and the opinion or current thought processes of the person being pressured, the pressured person will make a choice of defence. Even if you are pushed for time you still need to give the other person, the one that you are trying to help, some time to adapt to the new ideas that you are putting in front of him or her, and some time to mentally digest those ideas.
It is human nature to do one of two things when highly pressured, one is to protect oneself and the other to fight for protection. Depending on the nature of the pressure and the opinion or current thought processes of the person being pressured, the pressured person will make a choice of defence. Even if you are pushed for time you still need to give the other person, the one that you are trying to help, some time to adapt to the new ideas that you are putting in front of him or her, and some time to mentally digest those ideas.
This is very important if the person you are trying to help does not understand where you are coming from mentally.
You may not have been a street kid, but this person was a street kid or is a street kid. Its like two different cultures speaking different languages to converse with each other. You must be patient and willing to go slowly. You need to install faith into the person that you are trying to help, they must know that you are genuinely trying to help him or her. Frustration on your part will only distance you from the very person that you are trying to help.
You may not have been a street kid, but this person was a street kid or is a street kid. Its like two different cultures speaking different languages to converse with each other. You must be patient and willing to go slowly. You need to install faith into the person that you are trying to help, they must know that you are genuinely trying to help him or her. Frustration on your part will only distance you from the very person that you are trying to help.
Putting a person who desperately needs your understanding, help and love, on mind limiting or thought suppressing drugs cannot help him or her. If a person is taking such drugs then they cannot be “reached” because they are mentally subdued, the drugs themselves put a mental wall around the person-in-need so that he or she cannot be reasoned with.
People cannot accept ideas when they cannot think properly. A person needs to be of “total mind” to be able to accept any reasonable help, a sound mind is capable of common sense thought, a drugged mind cannot be capable of reasonable thought or simple common sense.
Time, love and patience mixed with a generous amount of encouragement and care will get results where drugs cannot.
Obviously some cases must have drugs as a suppressant to help, especially when a person could be violent, but I fear that to many drugs are being used these days as a quick fix.
Obviously some cases must have drugs as a suppressant to help, especially when a person could be violent, but I fear that to many drugs are being used these days as a quick fix.
If a person is genuinely willing to be helped then a dedicated person who loves them can make changes that all the greatest minds of the world cannot make. Genuine love reaches deep inside and changes and comforts a persons total being.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
30th of November, 2013.
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