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People can be taught to keep their Protective Boundaries Up to protect themselves from narcissists, manipulators and such like people.
And they can still be easily manipulated while voluntarily lowering their standards, lowering their values and so forth, because they voluntarily lowered their own protective boundaries.
The Door We Leave Open…
We can be manipulated through the door that “we leave open” to be abused, lied to, tricked and have our fantasies or at least allow our minds to believe that, our fantasies and dreams will become true, and then we fully believe that we will now be Living the Dream.
Manipulators use Family, Friends, and Deceptive Measures to Convince the Victim.
The manipulator works with you, people who know you, your family, and your friends, to get as much information about you, your past, your life, your dreams, and they do this in the most unassuming kind, caring way, to completely fool everyone who knows you, and fool you.
Having been seduced by the manipulator, people who actually care for you feel that the manipulator is the right one for you and they want to see you have your dreams just as you want to believe in your dreams with the manipulator.
You see, the people who know you know your dreams and desires, so the manipulator presents to you and to those who actually care for you, a person who is actually your perfect match.
Happily, people who really care for you, combine forces with the manipulator to help you both become a couple. Unintentionally those who actually care for you, help the manipulator to control and seduce you, and in doing so they, like you, ignore all the Red Flags and Obvious Warnings about the manipulator.
All those people who are used by the manipulator only see good in the manipulator
and that is the plan of the manipulator.
The Goal of the Manipulator is to produce to you and those who actually care for you, an image of a person who is very nice, kind, has your best interests at heart, and possibly gives the impression of only living for you and that he or she would really do everything for you.
And this is why when it comes to the crunch and you become suspicious of the manipulator that any advice or help, suggestions, from those who actually care for you is unhelpful and will very likely just put you back into the control of the seducing manipulator – because this is what the Flying Monkeys have been mentally trained to do.
Anyone Can Be A Flying Monkey Seduced by the Manipulator.
The most highly trained professionals, doctors, mental health professionals, the educated, titled and so forth are all very easily seduced by the manipulator because what they want to see is that you become happy (especially if they feel that you have had a sad past) and they will ignore knowledge, wisdom, education and history, to just see you get your dream. And in doing so as with all Flying Monkeys, they will help your abuser captivate and then later on abuse you.
In fact, years later when you discover that he or she is a manipulator, the combined forces of all those who wanted the best for you and your strong powerful desire not to let them down (as the manipulator planned it) you will stay with the manipulator well after you discovered that you are being abused to make others happy.
Many Flying Monkeys who eventually become suspicious of the manipulator/s will refuse to speak out and protect the victim because they fear admitting that they were wrong and that they helped the victim become abused and seduced.
Flying Monkeys want to believe that they are heroes, doers of good, fighters for justice and its a horror story to the Flying Monkeys to find out that they were in fact used to do the opposite, just as the wicked witch on the Wizard of Oz seduced the Flying Monkeys to attack the innocent Dorothy who had done them and the witch no harm.
The Wise and how the Manipulator Disarms them with the help of the Victim and Flying Monkeys.
Those who become suspicious or become alarmed, and are able to see through the manipulators tactics are quickly and efficiently dealt with by the manipulator because they are now a threat to opening the eyes of the victim and the Flying Monkeys that they have all been cleverly fooled.
This is done by the manipulator by convincing the victim that while these (the suspicious) people cared in the past they now want to sabotage (It can be claimed that they are just jealous and such) the new loving relationship that is forming between the manipulator and victim.
Those who want the relationship to go on also support the manipulator (Flying Monkeys) in the attack on the people who are suspicious of the manipulator.
People-Pleasers are especially easy to seduce as they want to keep the crowd happy – so when the manipulator seduces the crowd, the People Pleaser Victim will do all that he or she can to keep the crowd happy (even going against their own will or protective boundaries) and as long as the crowd is being controlled by a manipulator or many manipulator’s the People Pleaser Victim/s will always do as they are expected to do.
Those who are seduced by the manipulator give the manipulator all the information that he or she needs to seduce and disarm the victim.
Group Seduction.
Sometimes the victims are more than one and they are often seduced in the same manner, and their support of each other simply makes them even more captive and in support of the manipulator manipulating and seducing them, and sometimes there are many manipulators seducing a group of people – such as, say, a group of males seducing a group of young females. When one is fooled, they all become fooled, and they support and keep talking themselves into believing the manipulator/s lies.
The goal of the manipulator Find Out What Your Greatest Dreams and Desires are.
Then the manipulator will, he or she, be the best version of your dreams that they can convince you of them being. The Goal of the narcissist manipulator is to convince You That He or She is Your Dream or that he or she can Activate your Dream, even if only in the victim’s mind, the victim will be convinced that this is the start of All that the Victim Ever wanted.
Thus, the Door to the Victims Heartfelt Desires and Dreams was always open to the person who came knocking and delivered, at least convincingly, that this person is the bringer of dreams, the answer to tears and prayers, the start of a new loving complete adventure.
And yet be the complete opposite.
Have you ever seen a person, maybe a friend or family member, in a situation that you know is bad for that person and yet that person is completely deaf to your warnings, fears, and help?
The situation is bad for this person, but somehow this person has become convinced of something existing that does not exist and now wants to live it out regardless of what others want for them or what others believe. Family, friends, confidants, can all become enemies all because the Victim becomes desperate to have their fairy-tale become true.
An example of this is Religious or Mind Controlling Cults, or groups where a collection of like-minded people are convinced of them all becoming very happy participating in a dream, and only when it is too late do they finally discover that they were fooled, and many never figure it out, they just become submissive and allow their minds to be controlled their bodies to be used and abused and internally they pretend to themselves that this is the dream that he or she has always wanted.
We have in our lives conscious and subconscious “expectations” of life and especially people.
And double-especially we have high expectations of certain people, be they family, friends, or someone who we see visually as what we want to see them in our minds, and these expectations are doors with which a clever manipulator can grease their way through in to your “acceptance-range” and are to the victim seen as ‘too good to be true’, but since your weakness is the victim’s dreams he or she will happily let that person in.
We can assume that Life is Fair, that for us Justice will be done by some mysterious way and we will get what we know that others have had, true love, happiness, a family, and the dreams we always wanted – and in the case where God is concerned we can assume that we know what God wants for us and we can pursue that and let people in to our lives to give us that unreality.
The problem to these doors being open to all who act-out-the-part of our dreams is that we judge the people who manipulate us by their looks, what they say, whether they can financially give us our dreams, and so on…
We, in doing this, unintentionally set our own selves up for complete failure, and the only one who gets their dreams are the narcissists and manipulators who present themselves so well, so perfectly, and as the Dream that we wish and pray for.
People may say, “Why does God not stop this manipulation?”
The acceptance of the manipulator has nothing to do with God or any outside influence on your life. The acceptance of the manipulator was done only by you.
Sure you may have been pressured by family and friends to hear the manipulator out, but you still are the one who opened the door to you internally so that the manipulator has the time to seduce and fool you, and once behiond closed doors fully seduce and abuse you with your complete full permission for them to do so – because the narcissist manipulator is an expert on Seduction and Conviction so much so that the victim remains “Captive Mentally” for many years to come having being convinced that what he or she has is opportunity, love, happiness, and leading to their dreams.
Not even God can stop the manipulation and seduction that You Keep Allowing To Happen, because the open door to your dreams and your acceptance of Mr or Miss Perfect is based on pure fantasy and much wishful thinking on your behalf.
Even God cannot help people who intentionally fool themselves.
And there is another reason why Victims allow manipulators in to their lives…
Its what they want.
Its because they are still very sinful and while they act publicly as angels and sweet, inside they like to do the dark things that manipulators like to do.
Being manipulators themselves these particular victims are actually narcissists in their own right, and they enjoy the immorality, indecencies and such that the manipulators are known to like – so they deliberately (or some say subconsciously) allow themselves to always get in to relationships with abusers so that they can be abused, partake in immoral and indecent activities that they like, and then when they split up, the so-called victims can Play the Victim, get public support and friendships, and because like all other narcissists they desire the public opinion being in their favour.
The following relationships that they have are with other abusers, but in between abusers, this type of Victim-Narcissist gets to partake in all the shameful activities and enjoy them pretending publicly to be an angel, and then play the victim when each relationship fails.
Refreshing his or her life with a regular sprinkling of partners, and lots of immoral indecent behaviour that is all blamed on the narcissists that they have relationships with. When the narcissist tries to tell people that their ex-partner liked the sinful activities no one will believe the narcissist.
The gist of this, is that some people like their bad behaviors and that is why they are always in bad relationships, and they are as much a victim as the manipulators who they get in to relationships with – thus they knew what they were getting in to, and that is just how they wanted it, but they prefer it not known publicly.
Also, people can manipulate themselves, lie to themselves, trick themselves, in to doing things that are not good, illegal, immoral, indecent, ungodly and so on because these are things that they actually want to partake in, so lying to themselves allows them to do this while pretending to themselves that they are wonderful honest decent people.
The self-deceit is to convince themselves in a Mind-Loud way that they are a Good Soul while in a Mind-Secret way (not subconscious because they are aware that they are not a good person) they know deep down that they are a fake, a lair, dishonest, criminal and are of 2 Images – the Fake Public Image and the At Home Secret Truth.
During your life you will meet people who you know are dishonest, narcissistic, manipulators, criminal and so on, and if you sit down with them and talk to them they will act completely innocent, talk as if they are honest, law abiding, and when they watch TV they are on the side of the Police whilst in real life they are criminals.
This is a case of Two People, who have formed a non-loving, but convenient relationship that suits their desires and wants, and also they can actually lie to themselves and to each other while being the opposite of what they lie about.
Deep down they know that they are each fake, but they enjoy being this way, because fake relationships mean no real responsibilities, and if they lie to tthemselves they avoid the pain and suffering of guilt, and if they lie to their spouse and children they avoid being a responsible lover/spouse and they are not a reliable responsible parents.
Its active apathy, and a way to live, but it is not actually Living, nor is it Love, and it is not Happiness either, nor Natural.
They also have what appears to be a natural deep dislike for decent, kind, genuinely good people, and these dishonest people can rejoice in hurting, shaming and blame-shifting on to these innocent people.
You may have noticed that a lot of Criminals who get sent to prisons for their crimes
cry pitifully when the verdict is read out by the judge.
Many cases will be because the criminals lied to themselves while they were/are criminals, then they lied to themselves when the Police handcuff them and the Police take them away.
They lie to the lawyers, and then when in court he or she still continues to lie to themselves (about their guilt and the comfortable lie that they still are a good person) that sure they did wrong, but it was really not that big a thing (even for murder).
And then when the verdict is read out and they get many years in prison, they are forced finally to face the real truth about themselves, the past, what they did wrong, the people who they hurt, and that they were an active criminal who saw no wrong in what he or she did, finally it hits them hard that they are going to prison for a very long time because of what bad things that they did that ruined the lives of other people.
For people who are Criminals self lying is what they do, to pretend that they are like everyone else, deserve their freedoms like the innocent, deserve what the innocent have, and should be left alone while they ignore the real damage that he or she has done alone or in groups to change the lives in a very real and negative ways of people who would not have suffered had they never met these criminal people.
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