I had a girl friend who I loved a lot.
I put a lot of faith and belief in her.
I wanted to live with her for the rest of my life.
And I wanted her to be the mother of my children.
Over the years, every now and then someone would tell me that she was seen with other men while I was at work. Some said that she was having affairs.
But you see I had put her on a a pedestal in my mind and I refused to see anything except that perfect wife, mother of my children, person I loved who loved me, image in my mind.
So for a long time I was very gullible and was used and abused by her because she was having affairs.
Some people defiantly defend people who are treating them wrong and abusing the relationship, but because we put them on a pedestal of unbreakable honour we remain weak, gullible, used and abused, and we refuse to accept what is obvious and what is happening right under our own noses.
A narrow mind, is a blind mind.
We got to wake up, and I finally did. And I took hard tearful action, because I couldn’t allow myself to be abused like that by her ever again.
If you need to, be brave and free yourself. It is hard at the beginning, but it is something that you will never regret.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Tuesday, 14 April 2015, 7:30:58 AM.