Many a time in the last 12 years I have come to a crossroads or a event that I didn’t want to face or do. I would be anxious, worried about the outcome, fearful of making a fool of myself, struggling to cope with the belief that I could actually succeed with this thing that I had to do.
I got to understand more about Comfort Zones and how they can trap us into staying put and not attempting anything, and avoiding challenges, and walking away from disruptions to our normal comfortable routines etc.
The person defending themself does not like getting punched in the face or body, and does not like being hurt, bruised or losing a tooth etc. But to do nothing means certain defeat and then possibly a more abusive situation. We fight to protect ourselves from harm from someone else, and we fight to make sure that the damage from the attacker is minimal and we hope also to overpower our attacker so that we can go free with just a few bruises. Fighting back is coming out of our Comfort Zone to protect ourself and face a challenge forced upon us.
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If we realise that stepping out of our Comfort Zone is much like defending ourself, or facing the uncomfortable for a short while and enjoying the success from the short period of courage and discomfort then we can see the value to our own life by trying.
The sprinter knows that a fast hardout sprint will be tense and we can face some anxiety, a struggle against the others, painful, but the end result of that effort of a short while can take us through to great success and recognition. People face the uncomfortable to achieve more, to progress through life and be happier. These short bursts are excellent for our confident and spur us on to trying more and doing better, facing challenges and having a go.
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If we don’t try then we will never know, and if we don’t try we have to accept the result of failure and the unknown. If we try we can discover that even if we fail the first time that there can be a way if we try something new that we have not tried before, something that can be worked out and will suit all. Deliberate failure is to not try at all.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
3 February 2017.