One of the reasons why we tend to end up with the wrong one is because of lack of Emotional and Physical Control.

At school we are brought up to learn apathetic learning, some emotional fun, but mostly book work doing their own thing the Learning of Life back in the day is not what children get today, and the result is Apathy in our young and a lack of Emotional Control.

Add to this years of sex on TV, movies, magazines, adults and older children talking about sex. By the time a person reaches young adult age they are looking forward to sex, and have been groomed and trained by TV and other lost people of their own age to talk about sex all the time, and to respect casual unattached sex.

Then a situation comes up, some alcohol maybe, two people become emotionally enticed, physically heated, and sex is the result, and as has been said to me often by females all through my life, “Why the heck did I sleep with him?”

Its the same as a good workout, afterwards you are very hungry and you have a feed to get rid of that empty hungry feeling.

Its our lack of modern Emotional Control in the modern person equaled with sexual desire.
The right seductive words, the special looks, drug/alcohol to bring down the boundaries, and next thing you know you are in bed with a person who pushed the right buttons in you, but also you were the one who took their hands and made them press the right buttons that would get you in bed with that person.

A Mature Person has Control of their Mind and Body, especially sexually.

A Mature Paerson (who loose minded people often call boring) have control so much so that he or she is not even interested in contemplating thoughts of sex, and will trust God or wait for the right one to come along to have a long term meaningful relationship.
Mature people frown on Immaturity in Adults ,and people who lack Emotional Control who are seduced easily, or after a little pressure and hang out with people who they know will lead them in to trouble.

Many marriages and relationships today are started by that lack of control.
Along with vanity (likes to get attention and give in when praised), cheap easy seduction, and lack of emotional Control, thus when he or she should have stopped themselves even before something foolish started, instead because he or she liked the praise and seduction he or she allowed it to go forward, thus becoming pregnant and forced into marriage, abortion, or a relationship with someone who that person would never have been in if it were for that one time this person allowed themselves to be seduced.

Being Immature is not a choice of our own. It is a result of ineffective parenting and society bringing children up to conform and be emotional and mentally weak, unprepared for life, and incapable of seeing the worth and safety in being mature and Capable.

Immature Adults are very proud of their foolish thinking, their foolish activities, and they can be very loud at demanding to be respected, honored and treated as a respectful person.
What they are demanding childishly is that they be treated and rewarded as a Capable Strong Willed Mature person is. In other words they are demanding what they don’t deserve.

Time apart from the Temptation helps us deal with it Maturely and in the right manner.

A friend of mine was out of town without his wallet, and he saw an expensive caravan that he very much wanted. My friend obviously could not afford the caravan but the salesman was working on him hard to make the commitment and temptation was strong, and my friend said that he would get back to him in 3 days if he wanted the caravan. Back home, thinking about it for 3 days, he realized that he could not afford it and the payments would be a big struggle on his family and happily he did not buy the caravan.

Imagine. You are having what appears to be a good time with a person, your ego is being fed, your vanity tickled, and you are being aroused, obviously you are going to have this causal cheap sex – But Hold On – what about getting up and walking out,  even turned-on and tempted, and you tell the person you will get back to them in a few days. No texting, no phone calls with that temptation, no contact.

And during that 3 days you analyze, think, consider, the situation, you pray fo guidance. And as the days go by you hear in your mind the other persons sexual hints, the seducing words that lead to disrespectful cheap sex, and you know that this relationship will go nowhere and you were just going to be used to scratch an itch, and the revelation is also that if you slept with that person you were not better than the seducer because you were carelessly and uncontrollably going to use that person to scratch your itch – but what’s worse is that if you and the other person liked it, you would try to have a relationship, someone gets pregnant and the relationship and sex that should never have ever happened is leading to an expensive mentally draining and disappointing divorce.

Cheap sex leads to deep lifetime personal regrets.

Some things cannot be undone. Thus life needs strong mature considerable consideration. So if feeling pressured or that you are losing control of your emotions and body, walk away and take some good mature time to reconsider what you are going to do.

Be very pleased to say No!
And remember this, you do not have to explain why you said no to anyone.

If you are pressured for an answer then be sure that you are really being pressured into giving in.
Know that you cannot trust people who pressure you because it means that this person does not really like you and does not respect you.

Always remember, that Bad Friends, parade as good friends, and they create good-times, happy atmosphere, and such to weaken your will power and to help someone seduce you. Recognize that the feel-good-feeling does not mean meaningful relationships or real friendship, recognise when you are being tempted, used and abused.