Learning To Let Go

Throughout our lives we come across people who we love, some very dearly, who attach themselves to us with love but they drag us down into misery with their constant mistakes or failures. We go to great lengths to help guide them, we spend large amounts of time (and maybe even money) trying to make their lives better.
Sometimes they don’t understand us, sometimes they don’t seem to care (because they are unhappy), sometimes they don’t listen to our best efforts to help them.
These people are not helping our lives and it doesn’t matter whether they are related to us or not, they tend to slow our lives down and hinder our success and any chance we have for happiness.

We need to see them for what they are besides our love for them, besides the fact that we care for them so much.

You can only do so much for a person, once you have reached the best efforts and best advice that you can give you can no longer help them. It is time to send them on to do their best without your help. This is not easy to do, but they will learn more from their experiences from it. Many people like this struggle constantly, trying to find a path to go on that suits them, and many of them make decisions that do not do them any good (or anyone else). They must learn by themselves and there is nothing you could ever do to help them. It is time for them to stop relying on you for help and advice, its time for them to learn how to deal with their problems by themselves.

Sometimes we try to help a person and we know beyond doubt that they are doing the wrong thing, we try to explain it to them and they refuse to listen. Instead they give you some sort of mixed up logic that they have concocted. These situations can make us feel so very sorry that we cannot get the person to listen, this sorrow becomes frustration and we become more desperate to help that person, but they still won’t listen. Finally that frustration turns to anger because we don’t want to see the other person hurt.

If a person won’t listen then you must turn away and let them go their own way to make the discoveries that they must.

If they don’t understand you, and you realize this, then it is wise to realize that your family, friends, and so on have not yet reached your level of knowledge and wisdom yet, and some will never grow anymore mentally or in wisdom (even if they assume that they are wiser than you), staying in their space and minds will only limit them and they will refuse to grow. Their experiences of change and wisdom have yet to come, yours have been, and that is why you are who you are and who they cannot understand.

The educational and business world judge us, yet the learning of knowledge, truth and wisdom have nothing to do with academic education or business, for it is the Work of Love, of the Spiritual Heart, and of Enlightening the Soul, bringing us to new understandings, new levels of thought far beyond what we considered before.
Your wisdom and intelligence, your change of character, and new life from all things within you becoming new are like, a great adventure book put in front of an illiterate village man in the Jungle, for he can have no idea or imagination of what the book holds for the human mind, or even desire to find the wonderful soulful pleasures and joys in the pages of this book, for he knows not what he is looking at, or what he should be looking for, and when he see’s the words he has no idea of the magical joys that they can bring, and just like your family and friends he has no idea what has been put in front of him, for he simply does not understand and will not understand what a book is and its joys until he learns to read and write, and neither will your family and friends understand you until they too have learned like you already have done in the past, even right in front of their eyes and they still don’t understand you and who you are.

People cannot “read” us until they are too enlightened and grown in Truth and Spirit like we have. So please, forgive them, but move on to continue your Life Education and be Blessed with the Wisdom of your Life Experiences and the new people of your Spiritual Level and Understanding who are just like you.

Familiarity breeds contempt, close association with family and/or friends can lead to a loss of respect for you, and while they may look down upon us our loyalty to them keeps us trapped in their world when in reality we should be out there experiencing our own life and all the fun, trials, and experiences it brings.

Remember life is about choices, you have to let others make their own choices even if you know better – you can do no more, except hurt yourself more.

This does not mean that you should not love that person anymore or not be friends with them, it just means that you have to not be their adviser.
By doing this you will give yourself more freedom and less frustration. People must make their own choices for themselves, you can only offer suggestions and when those suggestions are not enough, its time to move on to keep your sanity.

Letting go also opens you up to more positive relationships that will come in the future. You need to be patient and wait.

Be brave, a who; new world awaits those who seek courage, wisdom, knowledge, Truth and Love.

Every individual must step out on their own to mature and grow!

All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
‎Monday, ‎24 ‎May ‎2004, ‏‎2:04:20 PM.