by James M Sandbrook
The idea of marriage and love is the marriage-joining of two souls physically, spiritually and mentally.
The sex act is the consummation (covenant) of the marriage and the start of the new commitment between man and wife.
Before social commercialism and feminism, male and female lived in the same home, stayed together day and night and completed each other and complimented each other.
They also healed each other of any past issues and sufferings that they had from their own upbringing’s, no therapists or drugs needed, just simple love, care and concern for each others complete well being.
Common sense and love told them that if they are cured of their own past sufferings that they will not transfer their toxic pasts to their own children
and therefore they will be creating something new in each child as each child becomes the soul that he or she was born to be.
A good marriage is about creating something beautiful within the man and wife and not seeking it from outside of their relationship.
Being of opposite genders they became one as each was able to be what the other needed, wanted and relied upon.
Both genders are good at some things and so in that way they both were able to make everything work as they worked side by side in harmony and happiness.
To be happily married both genders need to act natural so that their talents can be used productively and positively in the relationship.
If she is trying to be a feminist then she is trying to be tough, macho, manly,
and therefore her talents as a humble woman are hidden behind a fake version of herself, an unnatural self that will not ever find true love because it is impossible to have true love when one is a fake.
Same for the male being macho and trying to use women, be violent etc.
Fake does not attract love, it attracts other fakes.
With both genders complimenting one another they then blend into each other in all senses.
The original coming together in marriage is the start of a new Heaven Blessed beginnings, kind of like Noah starting again, and they, she and he, move forward to multiply and start a new creation from themselves, children, love, new lives.
Because they heal each other’s souls, form ideas, plans, dreams for the future, they are bonding in hope, love, for a future that they both desire with each other, and they pass this respect, love, courage, confidence to their children so that the young will grow up and have strong, decent, courageous families as well.
The goal with marriage should always be maturity, growth in all areas, best friends of different genders as one, complete in their differences, quirks, talents and incompleteness, and always growing, changing, adapting to each other, compromising fairly and with concern and love for the other.
It is all good because it is genuine love. No competing with each other, rather the opposite, both settling down with each other finding what they like in each other, delighting in the laughter, good times,
and comforting and loving the other in the sad and hard times, together, forever, as one, neither owning the other, yet both belonging to each other.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.