I remember a married couple I knew from years ago who had this amazing loving connection.
He is a Pastor, and from time to time he had to go away without his wife, and his wife would often put her hand to her chest and tell of the ache she felt in her heart when he was away from their home and out of town and how she missed him, and how she thought of him all through the day no matter what she was doing.
It was very obvious that she missed him dearly and needed to be with him to be complete.
When she saw him he would talk about the same feelings that he had for her. They needed to be with each other.
When they worked in different rooms on their computers he would sit there typing away for say about half an hour and then she would walk in and start to massage his shoulders, he would suck in some air and moan because he felt tired and needed the interruption, his tired muscles ached. He would thank her and even on some occasions she would go into the room and massage his shoulders and he would just accept it and say nothing, she would say nothing and then she would walk out and you could see that both were relaxed and happy for that few moments of interaction. Words are not needed. He would do the same for her.
Another thing that showed their beautiful connection of love was when she or he wanted a coffee. She would be typing for half an hour and want a coffee but be so busy typing and he would get up, walk into the church kitchen and make them both a coffee and then take hers into her room. He would massage her shoulders while they talked quietly together sharing intimacy in a special closeness that only true lovers can know. You could see them whispering and you knew that you were witnessing something special, something good, something from God. Something true.
They had that special spiritual connection of feelings.
He would know what she wanted to do, She would suggest or say something and then he would smile and say “That’s what I was just about to suggest!”
They were like happy mind readers and they would come up with the same ideas – they were “like one” as the Bible says so. This connection grows with time, it is so special and it holds the two together – fused together in love. She feels his love for her physically/spiritually and he feels hers in the exact same way. They do not want to be apart, they want to be close physically, they need each other to function properly. This is what we would call love at its best, deep, satisfying, happy and content.
Once she damaged the car and walked in fearing that she was going to disappoint him so much and that she had let him down because she had done something wrong. She stood before him, told him what she had done wrong (and yes it was her mistake) and hung her head and tears streamed down her sad face. He stood there and listened, and then when she had finished talking he gently reached forward and pulled her into his arms and held her while out loud thanking God that she was alright and hadn’t been hurt. And he told her he loved her and they gently cuddled.
Ahh, only for young lovers you say right? Wrong, these two had been married for many years and were in their forties, they are still deeply in love, because they were wise enough to let what is natural happen and they didn’t put anything before God or each other. Deep in love with the Lord God and deeply in love with each other. They had children and jobs, but they kept their love real.
Never turn true love away and never put anything except the ways of God before the one that you love. Society has rules, well all I can say to that is that rules can be broken. Forget what society claims, and be with the one that you love tonight – follow God’s direction. Friends are friends, family is family – make sure that they stay in their rightful place, at arms length, while your sweetheart is wrapped in your willful loving embrace under the guidance of God. Marriage is a creation of God where the souls of the two people are merged in love.
Do your homework – talk to people who are in good wholesome relationships. Read good wholesome books on the subject. Avoid having friends who are in relationships where they have a bad attitude to marriage and love – their attitude will wash off onto you or your husband or wife, its just not worth it. Avoid love advice from feminists because they focus far too heavily on one side of the relationship and the same goes for macho chauvinistic males. When you find a couple that are happy together, talk to them, find out why they are happy. And always remember that evil wants you to laugh scornfully at true love, this is so that you will never find it and you will never share it and you won’t tell other people of it – and evil wins destroying your life and leaving you with no hope of happiness.
If you are single and reading this and you long for love – go to those who are examples of love and goodness.
Your friends may be with the times but they may not be good advisers of what is good and bad in relationships.
Look at their relationships and see if that is what you want before you share intimate thoughts with them about what you want in your heart.
People want you to be like them, so please consider who they are and what they are before you decide to be like them and have what they have.
The same goes for your own family.
Have a look at their relationships and the types of relationships that they have before you let them guide you or suggest help to you.
When you ask for advice off someone look at that person and think “Do I want to be like this person?”
If not, its better to get your advice somewhere else because this persons advice turned them into who they are today – that was their line of thinking.
Their thoughts made them who they are today. Follow God, pray and go where people are that can help guide you – people that give advice so that you can be like them.
Just because a person has not grown up knowing what love is and has never felt that kind of special care and contentment is no reason why we shouldn’t step out on that limb and find it.
Its there, so please ask God. You will never ever regret finding true love, never. It is the essence of life.
Those who don’t know love are alive but they are not living – living is being with love, having love around us and being in love with that special one and loving God and all living creatures – human beings were created for deep tender loving relationships.
Love can be seen between a man and a woman when they are just looking into each others eyes snuggled on a chair, or just smiling at one another. It is tender, without any form of lusts or need to bribe the other. Neither wants to take off the other, each wants to give love to the other. It is gentle, it is caring, and it is very, very spiritual and science for all its wild claims of genes, and body functions and body needs has missed the mark by many, many miles. Love is spiritual, not physical.
Love is just not just about getting on with one another, it is trying to get along with one another because to you it is important to get on with this person who holds your love in their heart. You don’t want to disappoint that person. Maybe you don’t want them to see how human you really are, but once they see you as you are it won’t make a difference. You see, all your different strange qualities are what make you interesting to the person who truly loves you, they are desirable, funny, and yes, maybe just a bit strange.
Be open-minded about Love and what it is. Search. Pray. To find real love as God is you may need to remove some of your bad habits first otherwise you cannot see or feel love. Bad habits like, not forgiving people, resentment, revenge etc. Keep in mind that God is love and love is God.
To know God is not easy at first, and we need to be more and more like God to know God so it stands to reason that to know love we need to be more like God too. Never, ever give up the search for true love in your life until you have it. And if true love comes your way don’t ever pass it by, for that would be the worst mistake anyone could ever make. If God guides you to your love, be interested.
Love between a man and woman, between children and adults was all meant to be kind and generous, and sometimes even willing sacrifice. The sharing of one another with each other in kindness and decency is love.
I hope that this helps somebody who has not known love yet.
All the best and lots of love from your friend and servant
James M Sandbrook.
May 9, 2013.