Losing Heart...

One of the saddest things to experience in one’s life is once being in love so completely, beautifully and happily, and then discovering one day that the love is gone.

I would call this “Losing Heart”.

The magical happiness that held two people together is gone. It can be between lovers, it can happen between close friends, it can happen with family members.
The golden thread that holds two together is broken and one walks sadly away.

Sometimes in romance one of the two becomes negative, bitter, angry for some reason, and over a period of time the other one becomes more and more unhappy with the relationship.
And finally that person wakes up and realizes that the love for the other person is gone, he or she has lost heart.
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I remember being very sincerely in love with a female. I wanted so much to be in her life and to have her in mine.
My devotion and love for her was very gentle and protective.
I would have done anything for her, I would have given my life for her, I loved her so much.
But after at first being friendly and positive, she rejected me over and over again.
Then out of the blue she got nasty, mean, said lies about me, and eventually under the feeling of sadness and defeat I lost heart,
I gave up.

I don’t think it means that I didn’t love her anymore, it is probably more like I didn’t like her anymore and finally didn’t want her in my life anymore.
Her treatment of me, her obvious meanness, obvious dislike caused me to lose heart, to lose hope in her, and eventually to become grateful that she was not in my life anymore.
What one wants so much in their life becomes something that this person is very grateful not to have in his or her life anymore.
A very sad turn of events and emotions
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When people are married they need to understand that they are on the same side and are not in competition with each other.
People who have chauvinistic and feminist tendencies like to compete with the opposite gender and they really are killers of love and happiness.
They are a must to avoid.
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While it is nice to have someone stand by us while we suffer mental illness/breakdown, depression etc,
we need to be aware that someone is trying to help us to get over our problems and we should appreciate that person for what he or she is doing for our life.

When in our hardest days, life is so nice when someone is encouraging, kind, friendly, and letting us know that we are not alone as we go through these hard times.
It is wise to appreciate those who give us their own time to help us, are encouraging, generous and help us through another rough day.

If we don’t appreciate who we have married, one day that person will lose heart and eventually walk away.
Please always be aware of this in your life because we really don’t need to lose the people who have given us the greatest growth and joy in our lives.
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Years ago a person close to me who I loved did something very wrong and unfair in my mind to a younger person.
In an instant I lost any love or liking of this person.
All the years I knew her she used me and treated me bad, her behavior was sometimes appalling, and I made excuses for her all the time, and I told myself lies to make her appear a better person in my mind.
But after this one event, in a split-second, her real character became completely clear to me and I lost heart.

From that day on I kept away from her as much as I could and had very little to do with her again.
That is what happens when we lose heart.
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Sometimes breaking away from people we once loved is the greatest blessing they ever happened in our life, because it sets us free, gives us hope and new courage.
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We need to be aware that people lose heart and go away, so we should be aware of who is really good for our soul,
and who we really love and need to be with us through times of trials and lifes challenges etc.

Back your life up with people who are “your kind of people”, people who genuinely care.

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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
14th of July, 2020.