Please understand some other people have done more than you and some have done less than you, that is life. And what they have done is no comparison to your life because those other people have experienced a different life than you have, even people from the same family that have lived in the same house for many years have experienced many different things in the same home.

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Years ago a woman told me that her daughter had issues and she and her daughter were struggling to see eye to eye. And then one day the daughter told the mother that when she was a teenager she was raped in a park but in her distress she had told no one about it. And all those years she had his this emotional hurt and baggage on her own shoulders. Once they spoke about it tears flowed, and hearts mended.
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See how people in the same house should not be compared? Also parents have favorites sometimes, and each child faces different ordeals through life.

Please don’t compare yourself with anyone else. You are genuine, you are special in your own way. You have had to face your own trials and ordeals, and because you did (and some of those ordeals and tragic moments you were not prepared for so you struggled and stumbled through them, as we all do) no person has the right to try to pressure you to be like someone else.

You have a completely different character than any other person. Even all the people of the past that are dead since the beginning of time didn’t have your exact character. This shows you how genuine and amazing that you are. You really are one in a trillion trillion 🙂

Be very grateful that you are not like your sister or your mother, father, brother, etc.

To be told to be a copy of someone else is a huge insult to you because God has a plan for your character. He wants to see you progress in His way, and then He wants your life to be blessed in the most wonderful life.

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If people compare you to others then they are telling you that they don’t like who you are, and that they would prefer that you were not around because they would prefer that you were someone else. Save these false hearted people the hassle and move out of their reach. Show yourself some respect.
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Please don’t copy other people’s clothes, hair, attitudes and lives. We live in a time where people think that copying someone famous makes them special. When Lady Diana was at her peak of fame her haircut was the most copied around the world. Many hairdressers made a fortune on people’s lack of self-confidence, and many still are.

When we mimic others we kill some part of our unique individual character. Please stand strong, dare to be different, dare to be you. “Dare To Be Awesome!”

Look inside your character. Search for your strong points, we all have them. Keep positive. Find out what sets your soul on fire.

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Please teach your children to think as an individual.
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When we look less at what other people are like and what they are doing we can notice more and more about the best things about ourself.

Instead of following the crowds desires, ask yourself what your desires are. As you get more time to discovering yourself you will find out more and more things that you would really like to be and do that the crowd are not doing, and you will find that you like doing less and less what the masses are doing. And this is because you are becoming more aware of who you are, what you really want in your life, and who you really want to share your life and adventures with.

We realize that it is time that we stop allowing the crowd to think for us.

Finding our real likes and dislikes can be quiet a surprise. It takes getting away from the crowds, and getting away from peer pressure, family and friends pressure, and simply discovering what is really important to our self.

God will always lend a helping hand in this personal work, because it is a good work of character.

Learn to appreciate the new you, and appreciate your value, unique qualities and character. Humbly appreciate the wonder that is you.

All the best from
James M Sandbrook.