Helping People grow!
I remember a official gardening book, the Ytes garden Guide, from the 1950s (I think) where it stated that the likes of arsenic on your plants was fine. Officially back decades ago asbestos was highly regarded as a great product and huge amounts of people were exposed to it. Women who worked in the car dial companies used to paint the numbers on the dials with lead paint, which back then was considered safe.
All these new modern mental health issues and physical health issues and diseases, may possibly be a combination of the many things that were officially safe, like cigarettes, that millions of people were exposed to, maybe this is why all the health issues exist, and giving people other chemicals to deal with the original chemicals etc, is just adding to the problem and creating more and more health problems.
Love is understanding what the other has been thorough, going through, feeling and why they have their tears.
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True love is being there, and not knowing always what is wrong but just lending your time and heart until the other feels better, good enough to get on with the day, and to be there for them at the end of the day.
You see, if we share our time, love, kindness and care with the one we love then that becomes feelings of love, appreciation, returned care, and then the two are wrapped in this constant sharing of love, receiving love, that is what keeps them together during the tough times.
Both see each others flaws, weaknesses, and ugly parts and ugly moments, but it is what they feel for each other inside that makes all the difference. What they see on the outside changes , but what they feel in the inside stays the same.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Truth verses Loyalty.
Are we turning down good friendships because our current crowd frown on it yet we connect with that person so well?
True friends and caring family back us up, and support our choices for furthering our circle and because they know we must experience life our own way. They back us up even if the choices we make are not what they agree to or would make.
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We have become a world of people who are shepherded by the opinions of others. Many people have said that they were married because it seemed right at the time and “everyone thought that it was a good idea” and it ended in divorce because they found out in the end that they didn’t really love each other.
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Once in the habit of people pleasing and fearing that we may disappoint other people’s opinions we can just go with the flow for our entire life. But that will never make us happy, it just makes other people happy. There should always come a time in peoples lives when they should break away and take some risks and do what they have wanted to do or what they think is a right choice for them and not the choice of the crowd, family etc. If we don’t do this we will never truly be happy.
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And the only way to not be a people pleaser and to bow down to peer pressure is to do what the others say we shouldn’t do, and do it because we wanted to do it but feared others opinions.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Some people may ask,
“Why doesn’t God change the world today?”
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If we want a better world then it is people that must change, because we are currently our own worse enemy.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
A person asked me today “How can you tell if a person has changed and is being truthful?”
A thought came to me immediately and that is watching the person. If a person changes then they will not do as they did before. If you talk to that person then they will answer questions differently and have a different view of what they used to think.
This is why the Bible speaks strongly of repentance. To repent means to change and not go back to the old ways. Some people are sneaky and lie and some people really do try but they get that whisper in their ear and attack, they just can’t stop listening to the devil.
There is this lady I know. Some years back she attacked me on my Facebook wall with some others. This action hurt me because my aim was only to do good with Facebook and they couldn’t see it. She obviously has issues that have affected her entire personal life. She apologizes and then after some time attacks again. Very self-righteously and strong. She makes me feel very sad. I pray for her but she always had a reason in her view to put me straight and she would let me know about it, publicly on Facebook.
The point I am making is that sadly she hasn’t changed much. She has a deep set problem from her past that keeps coming up and keeps getting her into trouble with people because of the things that she says. So she hasn’t changed even if she means it when she says sorry. Her mouth gets her into so much trouble.
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If a person apologizes and you see the change of their ways in their actions, conversation, and life then you see a person who is regretting truthfully what they have done and they are really trying to change and be a different person. Over the last 5 years I have happily changed in leaps and bounds and I will continue to do so.
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It could be like Paul in the Bible who repented of his old ways. But what’s if a Christian saw Paul kick a Christian when he was down, or Paul wrote something bad about Jesus, or said something suspicious or wrong. Then we would question whether Paul had really repented with all his heart and soul and changed with all the efforts of his heart and soul. We know that Paul did repent and completely changes with all his heart and soul and to many is the greatest Christian of all. Paul is a wonderful example of totall complete change and a hope for all of us.
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So if someone tells you that they have changed but keeps doing the same old thing then you know that they either have some serious issues, or that they have not changed and could even be telling lies to gain our confidence for some reason. Please do your homework.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
28 September’s 2013.
But if the person is optimistic, positive that a good outcome will come from his or her efforts, and that life is itself an opportunity waiting to be explored and to be enjoyed, then this person will see all opportunities ahead of them and see how to do something with them.
This person will also create opportunities from nothing because their mind is active, wondering, thinking of new creative possibilities, and then when something comes to mind he or she will go forth and have a go. If they fail it is a lesson and if they succeed that too is a lesson and something to be thankful for.
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The mental state of the mind makes a huge difference to the living state of our lives. We are basically what we think.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Mistaken identity is a defense in criminal law which claims the actual innocence of the criminal defendant, and attempts to undermine evidence of guilt by asserting that any eyewitness to the crime incorrectly thought that they saw the defendant, when in fact the person seen by the witness was someone else. The defendant may question both the memory of the witness (suggesting, for example, that the identification is the result of a false memory), and the perception of the witness (suggesting, for example, that the witness had poor eyesight, or that the crime occurred in a poorly lit place).
Because the prosecution in a criminal case must prove the guilt of the accused beyond a reasonable doubt, the defendant must convince the jury that there is reasonable doubt about whether the witness actually saw what he or she claims to have seen, or recalls having seen. Although scientific studies have shown that mistaken identity is a common phenomenon, jurors give very strong credence to eyewitness testimony, particularly where the eyewitness is resolute in believing that their identification of the defendant was correct.
– Wikipedia.
What is Love making?
• 💛 Breakfast together and sharing thoughts about the upcoming day, touching hands at the dinner table, a smile at the thought of being home alone together later in the day, or tonight if there are children. Thinking of alone time and ending the day with a touch of heaven and the simple pleasures of love.
• 💛 A phone call during the day to see how the other is, a text or two, lunch together, a small present, all are forms of lovemaking.
• 💛 At home at last. A hug, dinner needs preparing, one has work to catch up on, both make the time to share chores and laugh and joke through it all. Both knowing that these things must be done, and that rocking through it all with each other is like heaven on earth, and it gets done much faster. They both appreciate each other and each others efforts to help each other out. No selfishness, both giving.
• 💛 I read a story written by a woman who bought many oils for massaging. her husband worked as a mechanic or something where he got sweaty, dirty and was often home tired. And she said that she would prepare the oils, heat them or whatever needed doing, and then she would lie him on the bed and apply the oils to his back, arms shoulders etc and massage them into his skin, soothing his tired aching muscles etc. He would return the favour etc.
• 💛 Love making is in the giving to someone who you love so much that it hurts to see that person suffer in your own soul, so you do what you can for that person and if they return the favour you have found something very very special that few today really know or understand. There are many unbalanced relationships out there where one is taking and the other is giving. This is the result of materialism where we are told constantly to goal set “for ourself”, to do things for ourselves, career and money are important and give us happiness and other things that are not true.
• 💛 Love is an action word, and love cannot be shared with words alone. Anyone can say, “I love you” and not mean it at all, but when you see a person go out of his or her way for you and keep doing it over and over again then you know that what is driving this person is someone who cares about you and wants to see you happy, and that it makes this person so deeply happy to see you happy. The only way to treat this loving soul is exactly how this person is showing you love.
• 💛 Love making is about all the little things, the efforts, the touches through the day, hugs, close moments, close proximity, jokes, private jokes that only you two share, looking into each others eyes at dinner and feeling very turned on, relaxed, happy to be there in your partners space. The love making throughout the day comes to a climax when the two finally gratefully and joyfully slip under the blankets and share love that only these two know, a love of giving, satisfying that will put them to sleep in each others arms wanting to be no other place on earth.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
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The happy ending is that she finds out that she got it all wrong and poor Eddie was going crazy trying to let her know that he loves her.
People, please don’t let other people interfere. Love is between two people not family, friends and relatives, its just two people.
So much peace would be on the planet if people wouldn’t interfere and they would just let love find its way in every heart and fill the souls with what they need, a forever partner in marriage.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.