It is extremely important to be able to make negative assertions. We must be able to say what is ‘not me’ in order to have a ‘me’. What we like has no meaning unless we know what we don’t like. Our yes has no meaning if we never say no. My chosen profession has no passion if ‘just anyone would do’. Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing we disagree with. – Henry Cloud.

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Have an opinion, even if it is not popular for that subject to disagree about it with others.

It is important to know what you don’t accept or want in your life. Too many people today are told to not offend and to accept whatever is put before them so that they can be accepted, liked, and feel good about ourselves.

Even if the whole team, family, room of people, disagree with you, at least it shows you that you do have an opinion, a belief, something that you are willing to fight for, and also you are showing to yourself and everyone who disagrees with you that you are not to be messed with and in the future they will realise that there is a person who does not do what the crowd does.

The fact that the group of weak-minded followers and conformers are called The Crowd shows that they are a group of people who will not agree with you – celebrate this, and be so pleased that you are not like them. Sometimes you will be right, sometimes wrong, but those who stand strong for weak-minded conformity and doing what the others do are always wrong about so many issues of importance.

See these conformers as if they had a disease, and if you are near or with them you may catch that disease as their weakness and submission to their mental captivity will rub off on you, and you don’t want that.

James M Sandbrook.