Helping People grow!
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Wisdom:
If you have just caught out people who have been lying to you for years, just remember they knew that they were lying to you in the beginning
they were just pleased that you were believing in their lies
when you freak out when you have found out that they are lying they suddenly care, become apologetic, suddenly go overboard with apologies and if you forgive them (yet again),
they will just go back to lying to you and being thankful that you will keep being fooled.
Wisdom is walking away.
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Time of stress are times of growth, change...
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The key difference between misinformation and disinformation is that misinformation refers to false or inaccurate information that is unintentionally spread, while disinformation refers to false or misleading information that is intentionally spread with the purpose of deceiving or manipulating others. – Brainly.
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The Left and right Women in the USA.
It would seem that the women on the Left in the USA that claims to be there for the best interests of women has women that are gigglers like Kamala Harris, gossipers and Character Assassinators as they are on The View, and in general not coming across as very efficient or courageous. They talk a lot and expect you to believe them and if you don’t believe them they play the victim and claim that you are victimizing them, or if you don’t agree with them then there is something wrong with you.
On the other hand Trump, who was accused of being a woman abuser, has very efficient women like Pam Bondi on his team that know what to say, how to say it clearly efficiently, and are keen to get the job done with strong loyalty to the cause.
Unlike many other female politicians, in New Zealand as well, these competent Trump women don’t waste words, hold themselves up with decency, calm, dress well and exp3ect to do what they say that they will do, they don’t mince words.
Discussion:
The goal should be to find an answer or to achieve a goal etc.
Discussion and arguments should not be about egos or who wins the argument. The idea is about positive communication.
The idea is to communicate in a way that all people are heard fairly, and that something positive is achieved by the end of the discussion.
Positive communication that creates positive feedback is a good goal.
To use bad language will lower some peoples opinion of you.
To accuse others, abuse others, or lose control of yourself will warn other people that you cannot be taken seriously and that what you say is “questionable” to say the least.
Humans were hard-wired to be social and have a desire to be with others. Good communication keeps the peace and gets good results.
Bad communication causes stress, and bad results, confusions and often failures.
Before we go into any discussion or possibly an argument we need our wits about us and a positive attitude.
Sometimes not all of us are like this, but if we are calm, and in control of our emotions we will be able to ask questions and answer any questions with clarity and with good results.
Our goal should be for the good of everyone.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Sep 04, 2018 1:53pm
People can tell you that they did not deliberately or intend to do something, and that what was seen or done was a mistake, luck, bad luck, coincidence/s, and so forth – but there comes a Level Where Intend is Obvious.
You have a situation that could be seen as deliberate, but you are told by people who you trust that it was not deliberate or intended to happen situation, but when we look back in retrospect, becomes an obvious deliberately intended situation when it has layers and layers of what you are told are coincidences or not intended, yet Logic explains to us while conversing with some Common Sense that…
Once could be a Coincidence, Twice possibly Luck, but Three Times, Four Times and more, is proof (with no actuall proof of deliberate intent) that the events were actually deliberately intended, and you are being lied to.
Its like the shooting at Trump by the sniper, people saying that it was incompetence by those who secured the area, The Secret Service.
Or it was a row of coincidences, just bad luck and so forth – but when you look at the many ways of which they failed to protect Trump, and how the various protection services and the Police failed Trump and the person who was killed, it can now be called a deliberate attempt to have Trump killed (by someone in a higher position in politics, CIA, FBI, or the Secret Service etc) because the sniper was “allowed” to get a birds eye view from a safe position and somehow he was not seen – in fact it is impossible (unless planned) that he was not seen on the roof where he shot Trump from.
The fact that they were offered a drone to scan the area and turned that down is yet another reason to believe that someone was deliberately making sure that Trump got shot because adequate protection, surveillance and security was not there to protect Donald Trump.
One thing I always remember my dad saying to us as kid, “You can do better that I have done.” He was trying to get his personal growth thing growing in us and entrenched in our minds as kids.
I thought it was rather unbelievable at the time because you idolize your father and I couldn’t imagine myself being better than him.
In hindsight now, that belief in us and our abilities has helped all four of us.
I remember when I had just joined toastmasters my mentor urged me to take on the role of club president.
At the induction ceremony the New Zealand District Governor spoke to the audience of the risk I was prepared to take. He talked about the growth that people make by taking risks.
Few of us know what we are capable of unless we take risks.
– Richard Logan
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The child sees others walk and so desperately wants to do the same. Failure after failure, bruises, ongoing pain, stumbles, tears, frustration, but the baby never ever gives up.
The child sees the goal ahead, knows that he or she can achieve it, and then goes forth and makes sure that it will happen, and the child will stop at nothing to achieve this wonderful goal.
The first goal was crawling, the second walking, the third running, and so on through life until they become a young adult in a dysfunctional unnatural human created society, then the adult falters, struggles, finds many goals unreachable, impossible, things to worry about, to fear, to become anxious about.
But as a child no one used labels on the child. No one taught the baby of such fears, these were early blessed years. The baby had not experienced shame, abuse, being bullied and pushed around. All the baby knew was that something exciting lay ahead, a world of adventure that greatly expanded when one walked. And from people all the baby hears is encouragements, and is greeted with happy parents faces, laughter and much love at each success.
This is what I think that Jesus meant by “Truly I say to you, unless you are converted and become like children, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven.”
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We are to become like children in innocence, be like children in faith, love, laughter, and to encourage one another as we would to a child of our own.
There are all these religious doctrines made by humans about God and life as a follower of Christ, but few ever delve into this verse or teach us how to be innocent like a child, how to live again as if life is wonderful, a joy, and how to be good decent doers of love, charity, compassion, and to reach out to others in “unconditional love”. This is how we “sin no more”, by being the child that lives within each one of us instead of the harsh adult that a dysfunctional world has made us.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
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A ruffled mind makes a restless pillow. – Charlotte Bronte.
Overthinking kills progress.
I had times where things would look good and then I would worry, become anxious, think of this and that and all the angles, and then finally talk myself out of it.
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So I told myself to be mindful of what is going on in my mind and when I was driving myself crazy to go for a walk, watch something I really wanted like a good movie, or ring someone positive up, or do some Facebooking posting positive images and articles etc, messaging and commenting. And listening to some good happy music.
By stopping the negative thoughts immediately then new positive thoughts come up in time.
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It is a well known thing that once we take our mind off problems that answers come to us when we are least expecting them. Overthinking stops this progress. Overthinking clouds the mind, and that causes the mind to focus on the negatives and many variables instead of just on what we need to think about.
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I think that overthinking can be a habit, and once in it, it may seem comforting, but in reality it is something to be aware of and to stop as fast as possible. It is a lot like negative thinking all the time. I was always doing that in the past.
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Some people can cause us to overthink, especially when we are about to do something that they don’t want us to do. So they start telling us all the defeating negatives about it, how we will fail, why we are hopeless, anything that they can say to stop us.
Those words that they say start the negative thoughts in our mind, and then we start to doubt what we were so sure about 5 minutes earlier. We hesitate, and then can give in to their attacks.
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Those who oppose us know that a constant barrage of negative attack with cause anxieties, fears, worry and defeat, so they attack full on. When you see a family (or some group of people) do this to one family member it is shocking how the family can kill a person’s happiness and dreams.
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This is why we are encouraged to gain self control and to be mature. We need to be mindful of what goes on in our mind, and mindful of how we react to what we think,and if we entertain negative thoughts and defeating thoughts.
Then we need to break the habit. And replace the negative thinking with a positive view of life and what we want to do in the future. And distance ourselves from those who try to defeat our life progress.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
September 5, 2016 at 2:02 PM.
‘Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but I think that means you do it with someone you love… and preferably when you’re married. You know? When you’re ready to take that love and turn it into a baby. Because that’s what love is.
It’s that first moment when you hold your baby girl and you didn’t know that anything could be so small or so delicate and you feel that tiny heartbeat and you know that you couldn’t love anything more in the whole world.
And you hope that you can do right by that little girl and always be there to catch her when she falls and that nothing ever hurts her. Not a broken arm, or a bad dream, or a broken heart’
– Mike O’Donnell.
Making a big life change can seem scary. But what is worse than fear is living with regrets for the rest of your life.
– Author Unknown.