Narcissists create a divide between their victim and someone who loves their victim.
I know a family where the parents hated the man who the daughter loved so they created a false identity of him while the daughter was suffering from depression.
The daughter eventually fell for the parents lies and now with the encouragement of her workmates (who are operating under the daughters mothers guidance but the daughter is a bit gullible and can’t see it) to say nasty things to the man who still loves her but now wants to be distant from her because she has been so mean to him.
When someone picks you with a pin you recoil from them and quickly make a distance. This is what the parents planned and is exactly what they are getting because the daughter can’t see from the inside how easily she is being manipulated and hurting innocent people.
Narcissists fear their victims finding true love, because the victim won’t need the narcissist parent/s anymore.
It is Divide and Conquer – Split the two lovers up, conquer the victim again, and marry her off cleverly (so that the parents don’t look like they are involved) to a narcissist like them.
And as the daughter goes from narcissist to narcissist she always believes that her parents have her best wishes at heart and that they only mean week when they choose for her and control her life.
Narcissists control people for an ego boost, they feed their ego with each success. They feel power from ruling other people’s lives.
All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
Saturday, 10 August 2019, 8:57:44 PM.