Parenting & Children Notes.

Just as the boy watches his father with his work tools and longs to be like him, the young female child will do the same with her mother.

But if her mother leaves her nothing to long and wish for, then where is her learning and motherly yearning to come from!

If the mother is feeding the modern family with take-away food for the meals and is away working and leaving her children at a day-care, kindergarten, pre-school, or at school then all the young girl (her daughter) has to follow its that. The goal for many young woman today is to excel in the working world and deny her own right to have children and a family.

What hope is there for the young female child to know her inner feelings and grow as a girl into a woman if being a woman is something to be scorned upon. The natural feelings of a woman are the feelings that have driven her for centuries, in fact, back to the beginning of the human race. The woman has a place in the workings of the family home.

Her place in the family home is so very important. It is the holding of life itself in many, many ways. History is the proof of a woman’s strengths, abilities, and genuine love and care for her family. Some books portray the woman of the past as struggling unhappy people who are at the mercy of time, their family and their husband. Can we really let our minds believe that woman throughout all of human history have always been miserable! Of course not. The proof is in the past.

The proof is somewhere else as well. Nature has many examples of the woman nurturing her young with genuine care and effort which to her is not work but a way of showing affection, love and genuine care for her young well-being. Human women are also examples of this, if they allow themselves to follow the natural path that they were born to follow.

Over some time now the woman’s role in the family and in the world has been changing. In some ways it has been a good thing, and in some ways it has cause much disruption. My object is not to attack anyone here in these pages but to show us where we as humans have gone of the track and missed the point of human existence.

A normal feeling of motherly joy needs to come back into the family, Many a child has been turned aside for the want for additional money in the family home. Many excuses are made, and many claims are made of how the woman working while the children are young is needed and cannot be put off due to the expenses of this and that. But excuses are excuses, they are many times not truths.

Just as a little boy watches his father when he is young and he yearns for those tools that his father uses in the family garage. This boy, through observation, has learned to some degree what a mans role can be in the family home. The young girl sees her mother and needs to learn of what she needs to do to take care of the family members. She needs to learn of the great responsibility that a mother has in her home. She also needs to learn of the tools that the mother uses in the home, she needs to know how to use them safely. She needs to learn of all her mothers secrets of how to get things done, and how to be a good organizer.

If most of the family food is takeaways then the young girl does not learn much of any use.

We seem to think that in order for our children to be well nurtured they need what money can buy and not love, or at least, love from a distance. Out of a twenty-four hour day how many hours do we give our children? It is well worth thinking about. People in foreign countries can bring their children up with the basics, things like food, cover (maybe something simple like a good strong tent or an weathered old wooden hut), lots of time and love.

Sit back and think seriously what is it that our children really need?

If a young girl does not get the guidance that she needs from her mother and other older women then she will probably become spoilt in attitude from living in a home that has a reasonable (or more) money put into it (with the mother and father working) and she will be incapable of bringing up her children and being a stable wife. She will get what the scientists recommend, good food, good safe child-care, plenty of education from the education system. But she will not get the love and care that a young girl needs to get from her mother. Without this education and love she will be lost as an adult female. She will wander through life struggling. Even if she succeeds with her worldly goals she will miss the tender love that she could alone give to her own daughter, if she has one or any children in a society that seems to from on a woman being a natural woman, as she was born to be.

All the best from
James Martin Sandbrook.
‎Thursday, ‎2 ‎August ‎2007, ‏‎7:58:14 PM.