Please try to recognise self-defeating behaviour in your own life. Like recognising negative thoughts, if we recognise behaviour that is a result from self-defeating behaviour like comfort-eating, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, angers, etc we can get to the root of the problem and stop it.
We can get into the habit of accepting (and even feeling comforted by) negative thoughts, and we can get into the habit of self-defeating ways in our life. We need to break these habits.
Not allowing negative thoughts to mature and live in our minds will bring thoughts of wonder, discovery and looking at life as it really is. We can get along with other people if we are not letting negative thoughts cause us to see bad in others where there isn’t any.
Life has a regular sprinkling of challenges, opportunities, exciting events, new relationships etc, in other words something is always happening out there all the time.
We were designed to cope with change. Human beings are able to adapt, and suit the situation around them. When we support one another because we care we make life much easier for each other.
When a person becomes depressed even the smallest issues become a big struggle. What is hardly a problem for someone else is a big problem for someone struggling with life.
We must be aware of people’s struggles, and be supportive and helpful.
Often it is jealous people (from their own insecurities), needless bickering, gossip, immaturity, false judgment etc that make simple matters into such suffering for others.
Jesus suggested that we love one another like ourselves, be meek and humble, so that we would be living in peace and harmony, caring and looking after one another.
With the same attitude that Jesus had there would be hardly any depression or mental illness because people would respect one another and there would be no need to try to conform to other people’s demands.
Confident people don’t let others rule over them because they know that they can take care of their own lives.
In a positive environment people grow into self-confident adults. Mature, self-confident people have nothing to fear, they are polite, encouraging and love to see progress in others (in immature jealous people their insecurities demand they destroy or hurt people they see as their competition, or they try to bring down people that they believe are competition for someone they love). Those who have fears (real or imagined) are the same, their fears drive them to negative behaviour.
It is only the people who are meek, humble and confident that can live in peace with one another.
Mean, jealous, spiteful, manipulator types cause other people to have mental issues and to struggle with life. Jesus new this. He was showing us the way to peaceful living, and how to get on with one another
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 24 October 2014, 11:33:14 AM.