Sister and Sister.

In toxic families with narcissist parents tend to play the family members off each other, like ruling a Kingdom and playing manipulative chess with people’s minds and lives.

There can be the golden child, the one the parent/s bond with the most.
In the playing off one child against the other the favourite sees nothing wrong in the abuse of the victim child/children, and the favourite can rejoice in her status as a helper and sidekick to the narcissist parent/s and help the parent/s in narcissistic and emotional abuse (Stockholm Syndrome, Gaslighting etc).

As the children grow up the favourite child can look down on the victim child and see her as stupid, weak, a fool, and in a narcissist way just as her parents have groomed her to see people, her younger sister etc.

The victim probably will always feel unconfident, unable to cope, have depression and anxiety, and will always be devoted to the parents and the parents fellow narcissist friends.

The Sibling Rivalry can be a parent interfering on a non-stop basis causing suspicion, rivary, arguments, doubt in each other, to keep them from figuring out that they are being used and abused by their narcissist parents.
As long as the children are divided in the narcissist parents home they can be controlled, used and abused.

As adult children of the narcissist parents the bickering, bitterness, confusions, doubts, remains because everyone is now so used to their roles and parents adoration that they can’t see anything wrong anymore.

If one of the adult children figures the abuse out they are accused of being a rebel and the black sheep in the family etc. What is worse is that the other abused and controlled siblings back up the narcissist parents because they are mentally blind to how they are being controlled.

If you had serious Sibling Rivary this may have been what happened.

All the best from James Martin Sandbrook.
‎Monday, ‎1 ‎July ‎2019, ‏‎4:14:42 PM.