Sometimes people can make us offers that to them are what we need to do for our own best interests.
Please realise that when people make you offers that you don’t feel comfortable accepting, sometimes the offer is for their own good, and not yours. Sometimes they innocently don’t see this, and sometimes they manipulatively do see it.
When people pressure us, especially in numbers, to accept their plan for our life we need to ask ourselves, “Why the need for pressure?” Is there a gain for them, and what is it?
Even if they have what seems a good reason to pressure you to making a fast decision, choose carefully. Take your time. Don’t rush.
A favourite manipulator trick is for them to spent much time working on a plan, and then thrusting it in the intended victim’s face with demands of a rushed decision. They work the plan out to look very good “at first glance” and they hope that you won’t delay long enough for a second glance and discover trickery, or have reservations about the whole idea.
A rule about taking out loans or buying things is taking 3 days or longer to think it over, to go over your finances, check your incoming money, and study carefully all the details of the loan, and how much you will pay back in total etc.
If people tell you that their idea is your only chance, or “an opportunity like this will never come again” then you are being pressured to do something that you probably will regret.
So please be careful, and be especially careful when people try to pressure you into their ideas and opinions. Think for yourself.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 15 August 2014, 11:24:18 AM.