To the cold hearted materialistic Narcissist who was trained to be the victims other-half, this is the perfect situation.

The Narcissist spouse knows that in the future abuse will follow and the victim will stay, because that is just what the victim was trained to be submissive for, to be abused and stay on, immaturely rationalizing the abuse as love.

The children born in to this Materialistic Bonding will also be abused. Used and mistreated, and this too the submissive victim will turn a blind eye to, because Living-The-Dream is far more important in that mentally deluded and weak mind.

I have been told of males who are paid to manipulate young women for this very situation, and then the young females are actually sold (in New Zealand and other countries) to willing males who want a submissive easily led wife who they can train, use and abuse, at their leisure and who will obediently cook, clean and do anything he wants, as well as abusing her when he wants and she will simply just stay and put up with it because she knows no better.

All the Narcissist husband has to do is say what she wants to hear, order her about and fake love.

When we are brought up in the bush we learn how to survive, and even if people do stuff for us like our parents bush life has many surprises that force all family members to be careful, courageous, tough, and to think for themselves.

But not so in the house where the victims are over fostered, who completely lose their true independence, lack thinking investigative skills, don’t know how to use logic, common sense, but most of all they learn to follow orders because they are told that ifr they follow orders then others will be happy (They are trained to be submissive people-pleasers).

The victims are also trained to attack, hate, Character Assassinate anyone who the manipulator tells the victim is bad. Thus the easily led victims cuts off all her chances of escape and freedom and happily welcomes captivity and abuse and has no idea that she is doing so, such is her delusional mentally blind loyalty to the people who control her.

This is done very much like what they do in churches. Some adult see’s a female and male in the church of roughly the same age and want them to marry, so all the adults in the church membership take turns carefully grooming the two together. The two victims, completely unaware of any interest in the person who they are being groomed to marry, start to see the other person differently because everyone is saying what a lovely couple they make, and they should spend more time together – and their unprepared minds start to think that they are in love, they marry, and 60-7 years down the track many of such marriages fall apart.

The difference with the Narcissist and victim situation is that the Narcissist knows what he is getting in to, the Victim has completely no idea whatsoever, due to the victims unyielding and complete loyalty and trust in the manipulator who brought them together.

The reason why it is so hard to “See what’s really going on” is because if you asked the victim if she is being seduced, manipulated and so on, she will fully (as she was trained to do) protect and support the original Narcissist who first groomed and brainwashed her and the Spouse-Narcissist who is now her perfect husband (as she was taught to think that he is).

You have heard possibly about the beaten wife who is removed from her home to protect her from her abusive manipulating husband or boyfriend, and the very next day, or a week later goes running back to her abuser.

Remember Moses helping the people, and the people rebelling and demanding to go back to captivity because they could not bear to suffer some hardship while escaping to freedom and a better life.

The manipulator knows how to get that effect of desiring captivity (the evil that they know and feel is secure) in to the miond of the victim, so that the victim will always stay with, go back to, and allow herself to be control by the Narcissist-Abuser.

Another example of this is the manipulation done by parents or from a sex predator. The victim, immature, easily tricked, easily taught to fear, becomes in time the willing captive of the abusive parents or the predator. This is also why in these cases it takes 10 to 30 years for the victims to rise up and tell the world that they were sexually abused, often by very well liked public people, because it can take that long for their minds to escape the many years of mentally grooming, brainwashing and obedience to their abusers.