The man or woman in a marriage are to be nurse, doctor, therapist, helper, preacher, a good listener, and guide to each other – in other words a person who will help the other person in life. Both people have past problems and will have future problems and the two together are to help the other by giving their hearts to one another in thought and action.
God chooses the right person to help you, and who will connect with you spiritually and will get on well with you for the rest of your lives.
The depth of the relationship will grow with time. There is no rush to go headlong into love when they need to get to know one another’s likes and dislikes. These things take time, and time is what they both have plenty of if they allow this.
As we grew up we had friends, brothers and sisters. This is to help prepare us for marriage. The interaction between male and female as children and in social time (the playground) helps each gender understand one another.
The man and woman are to be best friends. To share all the fun of the future even while bringing up a family together. The most treasurable moments in their lives are in each others arms.
They have nothing to prove to old friends, family or society – only to prove their gentle love for one another. Past friends and family take a back-seat to the new marriage – the new family is about the two in love and the new blessed relationship formed by God. Neither person should let old family and friends interfere in the forming of greater purer love that God has put together.
Marriage is about the forming of a relationship and this happens from the moment of total commitment. This is why both partners are supposed to have prepared themselves for this moment all their lives. We were born to be married in God’s name to have a family to bring up God’s children, to serve willingly one another and to serve the world by spreading love, companionship, goodness and mercy.
The marriage is a wonderful commitment. Society today seems to have turned it into a game and turned the people away from the commitment. We must try to bring it back to fill our hearts with love, a partner, God and our children. For the sake of our personal well being God brought us to love and marriage.
The only reason for marriage is love, and that is the way it has always been when marriage is blessed by God. Every now and then we read of wonderful relationships in the newspaper of man and wife who loved each other dearly all their lives and wanted to be together all their lives. What a blessing.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Tuesday, 2 September 2014, 8:20:52 PM.
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