The narcissist works hard at giving off the impression that he or she is innocent, because pretending to have a good character is part of the narcissists weapons.
The narcissist knows only to well what character assets to fake to make he or she look good in the publics eye, and to look good to their victims so that they will always be trusted by them.
When a nice person comes along and is genuinely popular, nice and honest, the narcissist will make out that the good character assets of the honest person are the assets of a narcissist.
The narcissist greatly fears their victims being friends with honest his people in case the victim terms stories about the narcissists dishonesty etc.
The narcissist knows only to well how to fool and trick people, especially with guilt and sympathy.
So if the good person suffers in any way the narcissist will tell their victim/s that the good person is using a narcissistic tactic to gain sympathy (something that the true narcissist does).
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The victims of the narcissist are often gullible and easily led, because that is how they were brought up by the narcissist. This is so that the narcissist can easily manipulate the victim as a child, teenager and through adulthood.
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So when the narcissist tells the victim that a good person is evil, the victim will completely believe it.
When the victim feels sorry for the good person (who is supposed to be a bad person according to the real narcissist) the narcissist will tell the gullible victim that the good person is using trickery to seduce the victim. But the reality is that the good person is hurt, does need help and is suffering.
In this complex twisted “role-reversal” the narcissist looks like the innocent person and the innocent person looks like a narcissist.
The biggest problem for the victim of a narcissist is that years of grooming since childhood is hard to see past. It is like a poisonous filter that blinds the victim from life’s truths. And even if the victim starts to see the truth, the victim is so dependant on the narcissist that he or she will willingly accept any explanation (lies) from the narcissist.
The tactics and methods of the narcissist are very effective and have been honed to perfection over the years, and sadly the victims have been kept in a state that lacks confidence and courage, exactly how the narcissist wants the victim to be.
If the narcissist has a title then some people will flock to the aid of the titled-narcissist as “yes-people”, and people who are in awe of titles, and of course those trying to win the favor of the titled person, but they will desert the person should he or she lose that title.
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In the Good Samaritan example people used their minds to trick themselves into believing that they had a honest legitimate reason for not keeping the beaten man. But the person who cared had not overruled his heart with the mind, instead he let his mind guide him to helping the fallen victim.
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The work of the narcissist is to make their victims override their love and sympathy with the mind and use fear, anxiety, worries to keep the victim from ever reaching out to get help.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 22 January 2016, 9:04:08 AM.