When People Give Up Hope (Narcissism Victims)

It is always very sad when you hear about people who can step out of a bad situation but they won’t try, and they eventually become so depressed they try to commit suicide.

Some are people pleasers, always putting others first, never knowing their own dreams, always thinking low of themselves, always wishing not never going against the crowd to reach their own dreams.

Eventually, especially when everyone thinks that all is going well, the person takes their own life.

When people commit suicide have you noticed how most people say that they “had no idea” that the person was depressed, or “he was such a bright and cheerful person, with a good heart, kind soul” etc, and especially, “She had so much going for her, so much to live for”, and “But everything was going well for her, new job, new friends, socializing”, “she seemed so happy” etc.
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But that can also be a reflection of the people surrounding the suicide victim. Busy with their own selfish lives, thinking that all is well, casting aside the obvious signs, and then” Wham!”
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Sometimes genuinely nice people keep on giving and giving but never getting what they need in return for all their efforts.
This is why we need to be around people who care, then there is spiritual balance. What you give, those around you give back tenfold.

If you are surrounded by negative selfish people they are like spiritual vacuum cleaners, they suck all that you have to give tenfold, and you get very little spiritually that you need to survive, until one day you feel so drained and sucked dry from the negative people around you that you that thoughts of ending your life enter your mind. And being dead seems far more happy than being pathetically weak minded and letting others rule your existence.

All the selfish people around you give you the same plastic non-meaningful positive talk that now bounces off your soul and instead of building you up, it defeats you, and your soul hangs is head day by day until it can’t take this anymore.
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The obvious answer is to go to a better place with better people. But that is a huge strain on the people pleaser who is afraid of disappointing others and fears change. Even the simplest of change scares them. They cling to the lamppost that was once secure (narcissists parents, husband or wife etc) and just hope this misery will pass away, or they decide to end it all themselves.
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Narcissists train their children to be followers and weak minded. They need them weak to control them. The narcissists always is a slave to, “What will others think?” but what would others think about the narcissists child’s suicide? What would others think about the letter that the teenager or child-adult gives to someone bearing all family secrets and truths, then what?
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There are peaceful answers to everything. But one must be open minded and willing to take risks to have change.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
‎Saturday, ‎2 ‎July ‎2016, ‏‎10:26:20 AM.